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Life can seem negative if you see yourself as a victim the way many DoorMats do. When I was one, I waited for the next bad thing to happen, and my attitude attracted more bad stuff. When you don\u2019t feel good about your life, the glass tends to be half empty instead of half full. But you can train yourself to have a more positive outlook. That attracts more positives to your world. Today\u2019s guest blogger, Tina Su, has let me reprint a post from her empowering blog, Think Simple. Be Decisive<\/a>, with suggestions on how to stay positive when you\u2019re habit is to go negative. Having a more positive mindset makes life sweeter! <\/p>\n

6 Ways to be Positive in Any Situation<\/a><\/span>
by Tina Su<\/p>\n

The power of remaining positive, whatever the situation, can never be underestimated. We are all here for a limited period of time, is it worth it to spend any of that time in a dismal mood? Being negative?<\/p>\n

The true test of an individual to remain positive is when challenges become difficult. Remaining positive keeps one\u2019s mind in the right state of balance and often opens resolutions to the problems at hand.<\/span> Negativity is contagious; not only does it affect the individual, but it spreads to anyone they interact with. When only the negative perspective is in focus, the resolution process is impeded.<\/p>\n

Eliminating negativity, or rather, being positive is a mindset that can be found at any moment, and turned into a habit.<\/span> Here are some tips that can help you in shifting your mindset:<\/p>\n

1. Shift Your Thoughts<\/span> – Be conscious of your thoughts. Especially, when life just isn\u2019t going your way. The moment you see that you are diving into frustration, agony, sorrow and low self-esteem – shift your thoughts, by thinking about something completely unrelated. This breaks the pattern of self-pity, mind-created stories, and negative downward spiral. What makes us different from other mammals is our ability to control our thoughts and think for ourselves.<\/p>\n

2. Find the Lesson<\/span> – There is a lesson to be learned from every situation. No matter how unfortunate the situation may appear, recognize the beautiful lessons waiting to be discovered. Sometimes lessons are expensive, but every problem is a learning opportunity in disguise. You may have made a mistake, but now you can accept it and continue, knowing that you will make a different decision in the future. Understand this and be appreciative for the experience.<\/p>\n

3. Attitude of Gratitude<\/span> – You cannot be both angry and grateful at the same time. Start counting the blessings and miracles in your life, start looking for them and you shall find more. What\u2019s there not to be grateful? You are alive and breathing! Realize how lucky you are and all the abundance in your life.<\/p>\n

4. Positive Affirmations & Visualization<\/span> – Practice seeing yourself in a positive and confident light. Do this whenever you have a few minutes (examples; Waiting for a friend, sitting on the bus, riding an elevator.) Self-affirmations (list of positive statements about yourself and your self image) are another simple and powerful tool to train your subconscious to see yourself in a positive light. This is important, as many of us can be so hard on ourselves though social conditioning. I am guilty of being extra tough on myself, but have learned over time to recognize my gifts rather than finding false and self-imposed inadequacies.<\/p>\n

5. Inventory of Memories<\/span> – Keep an inventory of memories that can immediately make you smile. Occasions where you felt happy, appreciative and cheerful. When you were at peace with the world. Whenever you are in a negative frame of mind, consciously and deliberately pick up any leaf out of this inventory and dwell on it. Reminiscing those happy moments gives a balanced perspective to your situation. You realize that what appears negative today will change tomorrow. Nothing stays the same.<\/p>\n

6. Criticizing Detox Diet<\/span> – Change your approach and attitude. See if you can stop criticizing others and situations. Our cultural conditioning teaches us to find flaws and problems at all times. Shift from fault-finding to appreciation-finding.<\/p>\n

Whether you are positive or negative, the situation does not change. So, we might as well be positive.<\/span><\/p>\n

As with any habit, the habit of remaining positive in all situations takes practice and a commitment to yourself to take control. But start small, start paying attention to your emotions, start by wanting to change. I am working on this constantly, and I am here with you, working towards better understanding of my emotions and becoming a better person. Keep going at it, and you will gradually become a positive energy source for the others around you!<\/span> Wouldn\u2019t that be empowering?
<\/span>Think Simple. Be Decisive<\/a>

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