{"id":3060,"date":"2012-05-14T12:01:19","date_gmt":"2012-05-14T16:01:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=3060"},"modified":"2012-04-08T22:09:33","modified_gmt":"2012-04-09T02:09:33","slug":"the-benefits-of-being-happy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/05\/the-benefits-of-being-happy.html","title":{"rendered":"The Benefits of Being Happy"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/2012\/02\/smiles-yellow-balls.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-2838\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/91\/2012\/02\/smiles-yellow-balls-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" \/><\/a>People tend to look for ways to feel happy, but they\u2019re often fleeting. Often we\u2019re so busy trying find happiness we don\u2019t recognize it when you have it. Happiness isn\u2019t something you build by buying stuff or adding more bells and whistles to your life. It\u2019s a feeling of inner contentment that comes from self-acceptance.<\/p>\n<p>The more you love yourself, the more happiness will come into your life. When I was a DoorMat I didn\u2019t think I could ever be happy. I tried buying things I wanted but except for the moment of the purchase, they didn\u2019t make me happy. I was convinced that pleasing everyone I could would make me happy but back then I didn\u2019t realize that I left the most important person out when I did my pleasing\u2014me! How could I be happy if I ignored my own needs??<\/p>\n<p>But that\u2019s what many of us do. We please others at our own expense and then wonder why we\u2019re rarely happy. The key to happiness is being kind to self. That sort of kindness nourishes the soul, which creates a feeling of contentment and leads to many good things. Below is a video I found that gives the benefits of being happy. Watch it and let it motivate you to give yourself more love so you can find the kind of happiness you DESERVE!!<\/p>\n<p>As someone who lived without happiness for many years in DoorMatville, I can attest how much better life is when you build happiness with self-love. Being happy is healthy for you and feels so much better than being an unhappy people pleaser. Watch this video and see why giving yourself love and creating a true inner happiness is worth it!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=YAUoClbSMp4&#038;feature=related\">http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=YAUoClbSMp4&amp;feature=related<\/a>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>***************<\/p>\n<p>Take the <a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-pledge\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a>&#8211;a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days&#8211;and get my book, <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-book\" target=\"_blank\">How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/\">http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2012 <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/02\/31-days-of-self-love-2012.html\" target=\"_blank\">HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>People tend to look for ways to feel happy, but they\u2019re often fleeting. Often we\u2019re so busy trying find happiness we don\u2019t recognize it when you have it. Happiness isn\u2019t something you build by buying stuff or adding more bells and whistles to your life. It\u2019s a feeling of inner contentment that comes from self-acceptance.&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":83,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,1,14,2,15],"tags":[973,27],"class_list":["post-3060","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-happiness","category-nice-people-can-finish-first","category-positive-mental-attitude","category-self-empowerment-confidence","category-self-love-acceptance","tag-happiness","tag-self-love"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>The Benefits of Being Happy - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/05\/the-benefits-of-being-happy.html\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The Benefits of Being Happy - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"People tend to look for ways to feel happy, but they\u2019re often fleeting. 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