{"id":3042,"date":"2012-06-05T12:01:32","date_gmt":"2012-06-05T16:01:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=3042"},"modified":"2012-04-20T11:48:51","modified_gmt":"2012-04-20T15:48:51","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-buying-without-fear-or-guilt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/06\/law-of-attraction-in-action-buying-without-fear-or-guilt.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Buying Without Fear or Guilt"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 190 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve been reading this blog, you know I\u2019m a big proponent of treating yourself with love. That includes allowing yourself things that will make you happy. I\u2019m not referring to buying yourself a fancy car or something else that will put you into serious debt. But occasional splurges feel good and should motivate pleasure, not fear of spending or guilt about it. The more you trust that you\u2019ll be able to pay for whatever it is, the more the Law of Attraction brings you solvency to pay for it.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a difference between spending money on something that will make you happy and spending money on things because you\u2019re unhappy and want to soothe yourself with purchases. The latter can put you into debt and the joy goes away soon after the purchase and you look for other things to try to make up for the dissatisfaction with your life. I\u2019m referring to saving up for a vacation, then thinking you shouldn\u2019t spend the money and should put it in the bank or buy something practical and essential instead. Or you want to buy the better lotion or wine or coffee but your inner voice tells you to just buy the cheap brand and save money.<\/p>\n

Giving yourself pleasure is essential and you DESERVE splurges The more joy you feel, the higher your vibration for manifesting.<\/p>\n

Yet too often a purchase or other splurge that should bring joy is marred by negative emotions about it. So the pleasure of the splurge is tempered by guilt and you don\u2019t really enjoy it. It also tells the Universe you don\u2019t feel you deserve the splurge, which can keep you stuck.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI really shouldn\u2019t spend money on something that\u2019s not necessary.\u201d<\/strong> Redefine necessary! It doesn\u2019t mean just the basics. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Showing yourself love by allowing yourself to have things you desire is necessary. You can budget to allow an occasional extra.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI could use the money to buy my mother a new vacuum.\u201d<\/strong> We often spend money on others that we won\u2019t spend on ourselves. I did that when I was a DoorMat. It\u2019s important to embrace your right to take care of you first. Then help others if you can afford it.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI shouldn\u2019t hire someone to clean my living space since I can do it myself if I ever find the time.\u201d<\/strong> Ask yourself how happy you\u2019ll be to have someone clean for you. I can attest it feels great. Time is precious. Having a clean living space makes you feel good. Find a way to get some help. I have someone I pay to come here once a month to clean my bathroom and kitchen only. I can vacuum and dust the rest of my place but those two rooms have always been a pain to clean. So they get scrubbed clean once a month and then do my best to maintain them until the woman comes again. It\u2019s part of my budget and I\u2019m always happy when she\u2019s done. That\u2019s worth the money!<\/p>\n

Guilt about spending on pleasure holds you back from getting more good stuff. When you spend from a place of self-love, and enjoy whatever it is, you can attract amazing things!<\/p>\n

For example, I always want to buy a pair of Fit Flop sandals. I\u2019d heard they\u2019re great for walking, which I do a lot of. Regular flip flops hurt my feet if I walk in them too much. But Fit Flops are expensive, so I never got a pair\u2014until last summer when I was in Macy\u2019s and happened to come down an escalator which landed me in front of a display with the ones I wanted. While I\u2019ve seen some pairs for $75 or more, these were $50, which is still a lot for flip flops. But I wanted them! After trying them on and loving how they felt, I decided I was worth the price and would have no problem paying for them. And I had a discount coupon for $10 off a purchase that I\u2019d use.<\/p>\n

Another person might have put them back or felt guilt about the purchase. I had some big expenses coming up so it wasn\u2019t the best time for a splurge on a practical level.<\/p>\n

But wanting to make myself happy was a good enough reason and I put out the intention that I\u2019d get something extra to pay for them. When I told the cashier how excited I was to buy my first pair, she told me how lucky I was. Though there was no sign at the display, they were on sale\u2014the first time she\u2019d ever seen them for a lower price! Thirty-five bucks! With my coupon I paid $25\u2014half price! When I decided I was worth the purchase and put out my intention to pay for them easily, the Universe made it easier. I love walking in my Fit Flops and smile whenever I think about how I bought them. I\u2019ll buy another pair when they wear out as I\u2019m hooked!<\/p>\n

Guilt mars joy. If you decide to do something for yourself that costs money, relax and have faith that it will be fine. Don\u2019t ruin your pleasure with guilt or fear about money, as long as you\u2019re not going overboard. Trust that you\u2019ll have the money to pay for it. Strong faith really does take care of us. And the more you enjoy your splurge, the more positive vibrations the Law of Attraction can pick up on. That\u2019s a win\/win purchase!<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a>–a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days–and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2012 HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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