{"id":2993,"date":"2012-05-08T12:01:55","date_gmt":"2012-05-08T16:01:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=2993"},"modified":"2012-03-29T13:02:47","modified_gmt":"2012-03-29T17:02:47","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-dont-power-vs-will-power","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/05\/law-of-attraction-in-action-dont-power-vs-will-power.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Don\u2019t-Power vs. WILL-Power"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 187 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

One big reason people fail to reach their goals is they think in terms of what they don\u2019t want instead of what they do.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI don\u2019t want to continue to live hand to mouth.\u201d
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI don\u2019t want to be alone anymore.\u201d
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI don\u2019t want to keep struggling to lose weight.\u201d<\/p>\n

Every time you express what you don\u2019t want, even if you\u2019re saying you don\u2019t want it, you reinforce having it. Learning this was crucial for me to use the Law of Attraction as effectively as I do. Our words and thoughts are picked up literally. It doesn\u2019t matter how much we say we DON\u2019T want something. If the word for what you don\u2019t want is expressed, that\u2019s what\u2019s picked up and returned to you. The Law of Attraction doesn\u2019t interpret your needs. It only knows what you express.<\/p>\n

I refer to expressing\u00a0what you do really want in a positive way that shows you will get it as WILL-power. You can change from don\u2019t-power to having good will-power by watching what you say. It’s also important to think about your words so you stop thinking about what you DON\u2019T want and focus on what you do. Those 3 desires above come off negative. They can be changed to:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI will be financially solvent.\u201d This is the same desire as not wanting to live hand to mouth but it\u2019s expressed in a positive way. You\u2019ll have a much better chance of attracting more money with this statement.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI will meet a great person for romance who makes me happy.\u201d That sounds and feels so much better than not wanting to be alone.\u00a0 It also makes what you do want much clearer to the Universe, which facilitates manifesting.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI will get my body into good shape.\u201d Saying it this way allows the Universe to choose how this will happen, instead of you struggling not to eat a lot or killing yourself in the gym. It also allows you to love your body more, which also attracts a healthier body.<\/p>\n

Saying “I will” is also a good motivator. Think about your desires and how you express them. Then revamp them to be in positive terms. When you go from don\u2019t-power, which sabotages goals, to having will-power, by being clear about what you want in positive terms, you will have the Law of Attraction on the side of what you really want.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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