{"id":294,"date":"2007-11-28T17:31:00","date_gmt":"2007-11-28T17:31:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2007\/11\/letter-to-britney-spears.html"},"modified":"2007-11-28T17:31:00","modified_gmt":"2007-11-28T17:31:00","slug":"letter-to-britney-spears","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2007\/11\/letter-to-britney-spears.html","title":{"rendered":"Letter To Britney Spears"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I\u2019ve written about Brit before. One keeps hearing about how low she keeps sinking. People reach out to her. And now, her dirty family laundry is being aired, giving obvious clues about why Brit keeps taking the low road. So what\u2019s a pop princess to do?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve always said I have compassion for Britney Spears<\/span>. <\/p>\n

Now that her childhood traumas have been exposed<\/span>, I have even more. Her father was an alcoholic. She was her parent\u2019s ticket out of poverty. What I’ve read is quite dysfunctional. Her mom is said to have taken her to bars and shared glasses of wine before Brit was eighteen. It\u2019s easy to tell someone to live for right now. But Brit jumped from child to adult world.<\/span> She missed adolescence and growing pains that normal girls have. Now she\u2019s suffering from the pain of being an adult in great distress. <\/span><\/p>\n

My friend Joy Rose<\/span> is founder of Mamapalooza<\/a><\/span>, an entertainment and lifestyle community for moms. As a mom and lead singer for Housewives on Prozac<\/a><\/span>, Joy has a strong focus on musicians and music related activities. She wrote the letter below, expressing her feelings about what Brit is going through. As someone so blatantly in the public eye, Britney Spears sets a bad example for many girls and young women who emulate her behavior. She\u2019s also a sad example of how money, fame, looks, etc., don\u2019t bring happiness or self-powerment. Here\u2019s Joy\u2019s letter:<\/p>\n

Letter To Britney Spears<\/span><\/p>\n

Dear Britney,
As a musician who\u2019s also a mom, I want say how profoundly sorry I am for all you\u2019re going through. Your career has been orchestrated by some of the biggest entertainment star-makers in the business, invested in keeping you young, beautiful and body-perfect.<\/span> There is no such thing as a human being who doesn\u2019t age and change and there\u2019s no such thing as a \u2018perfect\u2019 mom. It\u2019s time you made the adjustment from girl to woman, in a real way!<\/p>\n

You are acting out, because you\u2019re trying to find your power as a woman.<\/span><\/p>\n

Historically, women have been deemed \u2018crazy\u2019 when they don\u2019t behave in a quiet, neat and \u2018good\u2019 ways. Moms are especially subject to scrutiny and ridicule. What people don\u2019t talk about is the importance of finding your personal power, BEFORE you can ever be a powerful role maker and mother.<\/span><\/p>\n

You haven\u2019t had a chance to do that yet, because you\u2019ve been puppeted by your family and people in the business to make you appear in an image and likeness they find appealing. Now that no one\u2019s holding the strings\u2013you\u2019re not quite sure what to do.<\/span> That\u2019s madness in the making.<\/p>\n

By the same token, just because you do what the public deems \u2018normal\u2019 doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re doing a \u2018good\u2019 job either. The papers have been applauding Kevin Federline as a \u2018good Dad\u2019 because he stands there mute. He\u2019s quiet. He\u2019s domicile. His veneer is together. No one knows what he does in private and I suspect it\u2019s not always very admirable. I recently saw his photo in Star Magazine. They had him posing with a cigarette in his hand, and the title \u2018good Dad\u2019 above him. There aren\u2019t any uprisings about him smoking?? Why not?<\/p>\n

We are all human beings first and foremost. You need to find your power. Your power can\u2019t just come from your youth and body anymore, because once you cross over that invisible line of \u2018Momdom\u2019 you become something else \u2013 A Mom Rocker.<\/span><\/p>\n

Feel free to contact me anytime. We\u2019re an organization of Moms Who Rock<\/a><\/span>! <\/p>\n

All Love and Compassion for you on your journey,
Joy Rose<\/p>\n

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