{"id":2930,"date":"2012-05-25T12:01:37","date_gmt":"2012-05-25T16:01:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=2930"},"modified":"2012-04-06T23:02:40","modified_gmt":"2012-04-07T03:02:40","slug":"recognize-your-beauty","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/05\/recognize-your-beauty.html","title":{"rendered":"Recognize Your Beauty"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>We see the beauty in other people and in the world around us. But, often we don\u2019t recognize or acknowledge our own. Do you balk or try to minimize compliments? Is it easier to put yourself down? Are your flaws more prominent in your consciousness?\u00a0 All of this is very common but, it\u2019s not right! And, it\u2019s counter to loving you.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve had clients who first came to me and couldn\u2019t stand to look at themselves in the mirror. It was too painful. I remember how that felt when I hated me. Looking in the mirror got me down because I saw only parts of me\u2014the parts I hated! My clients also had selective vision in the mirror. We can be in the great outdoors and slowly take in the beauty of nature, or watch fireworks and relish all the colors and shapes. Yet it\u2019s so hard to slowly take in your own beauty\u2014to look yourself up and down to find all the lovely things that make you who you are.<\/p>\n

But you must! Finding all the beauty that you possess will open your eyes to loving yourself.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ignore the lovely things that make you YOU! I needed someone to drag me to a mirror to force me to see my pretty green eyes. That made me realize how much I missed out on by focusing on what I didn\u2019t like. It was easy to compliment friends and enjoy artwork and the art of nature. When I go hiking, I slowly look around in awe, appreciating the beauty of the views. Now I use that same attitude to view me!<\/p>\n

Start looking for your beauty. It\u2019s there and you can find it if you look. I\u2019m talking about guys too! We all have wonderful qualities that we don\u2019t appreciate. Slow begin to pay attention to things about yourself that you\u2019ve never given time to\u2014the strength in your hands, your warm smile, eyes that twinkle, and a gazillion other things! Linger on each part of you and see yourself like the view from a mountain. Write down what you recognize as your beauty. You have it and just need to take the time to look!
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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