{"id":29,"date":"2010-02-23T16:51:00","date_gmt":"2010-02-23T16:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/02\/law-of-attraction-in-action-assumptions.html"},"modified":"2010-02-23T16:51:00","modified_gmt":"2010-02-23T16:51:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-assumptions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/02\/law-of-attraction-in-action-assumptions.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Assumptions"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 75 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action<\/span>. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series<\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

Wanna know how to get on my nerves? Finish my sentence because you assume you know what I\u2019m going to say. Or do what you assumed that I wanted instead of waiting for my answer. I don\u2019t like when people second guess me. Many people don\u2019t like it either. Yet we often second-guess ourselves when our confidence isn\u2019t what it should be or if we\u2019re scared or feel undeserving.<\/p>\n

You limit what you can have or do by assuming it won\u2019t work out.<\/span><\/p>\n

When I was a DoorMat, I turned my assumptions into roadblocks for getting things I wanted by assuming I couldn\u2019t have them. I believed I knew my place when it came to dating. For example, there were certain men I assumed were out of my league so I didn\u2019t even allow myself a chance to date one. My assumptions led me to attract only the guys I assumed were what I deserved. Looking back, I prevented the \u201cbetter\u201d guys from dating me by assuming I wasn\u2019t good enough for them. It happens in all areas of life.<\/p>\n

Assumptions become your reality when they dominate your beliefs since you attract what you think.<\/span><\/p>\n

Making assumptions can become a habit you don\u2019t even notice\u2014an automatic response to situations that you lack of confidence in or that low self-esteem can trigger. You may assume that:<\/p>\n

* You won\u2019t get the job you\u2019d love because of the number of applicants<\/span>. Someone has to get it so why not you? Assuming you won\u2019t happen keeps you from applying and sends a message that you know you won\u2019t get it. The Universe will accommodate you in not getting it.<\/p>\n

* Someone doesn\u2019t like you because they\u2019re cool when you see them<\/span>. Assuming that makes you cooler to the person. But often the other person is shy or may think you\u2019re the one who doesn\u2019t like them. I\u2019ve assumed that about someone and quickly caught myself. When I made an effort to be friendly, the person warmed up too.<\/p>\n

* You can\u2019t go the distance in some form of exercise<\/span>. I\u2019m a walk-a-holic and on many occasions invited a friend to join me on a very long walk. Usually they assume they can\u2019t do it and try to get out of it. The ones I prod are surprised that they were able to make it without falling apart. And it makes them happy to know they did it!<\/p>\n

* It\u2019s not the right time to ask for a raise.<\/span> The right time is when you feel you DESERVE one! Assuming your boss won\u2019t think you\u2019ve earned one or that they company can\u2019t afford it attracts less money. And if you don\u2019t ask, you sure won\u2019t get more!<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t know what you\u2019re capable of doing or getting unless you try. That\u2019s why assumptions need to be kicked out from under you if you\u2019re letting them limit what you get. I stayed in DoorMatville for many years, assuming if I left I\u2019d have no friends or security. Now I know that I create my own security, and people like me more, and for the right reasons, because I\u2019m my own person now instead of a cloying people pleaser.<\/p>\n

While I’m not into astrology in general, Susan Miller at Astrology Zone<\/a>‘s horoscopes have been very accurate for me. Once she said that a one week window would bring me so much sex appeal, no guy would be able to resist me. I thought it was funny, but, it made me want to see if it was true. I went to a talk and saw a gorgeous guy across the room. Normally I’d have assumed he was out of my league but this time I smiled at him and got one back. We ended up going out for food after. I did this 2 more times that week and met some great guys I’d ordinarily not tried for. It taught me a lot about assumptions.<\/p>\n

When you put out an energy of expecting instead of assuming you won’t get something, you’re more likely to receive.<\/span><\/p>\n

Alan Alda said, “Begin challenging your own assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once and a while, or the light won’t come in.\u201d<\/p>\n

Illuminate your life by giving yourself space left by assumption roadblocks that you get rid of. Challenge your assumptions by going after what you want. The worst that can happen is you don\u2019t get what you want. But not taking risks assures you won\u2019t get it! Years ago someone I worked me heard me saying that I assumed someone else would get the better assignment for the work I did at the time. He stopped me and said I must remember that when you assume something, you put an ass in front of u and me.<\/p>\n

ASS-U-ME<\/span><\/div>\n

Now I\u2019m on the alert for my assumptions. Most of the time I catch myself from letting assumptions stop me. I want to attract all the good I can! So I don\u2019t want to give the Universe assumptions to make real. If you catch yourself assuming that something won\u2019t happen, ask yourself what you\u2019re afraid of? Rejection? Not being able to do the job? Disappointment? Being judged unfairly? Work on resolving those issue to dissolve the assumptions.<\/p>\n

ANYTHING can be achieved or received by putting your mind to it, literally and spiritually!<\/span><\/p>\n

Watch out for your own assumptions and catch yourself before you allow them to stop you from trying something or sending the wrong message to the Universe. Remember, assumptions don\u2019t stop you unless you embrace them! Instead, embrace a desire to do what you want and get excited about getting it. That\u2019s a lot more rewarding.<\/p>\n

See all the Law of Attraction in Action Series.<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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