{"id":2879,"date":"2012-03-09T12:01:50","date_gmt":"2012-03-09T17:01:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=2879"},"modified":"2012-03-06T16:06:11","modified_gmt":"2012-03-06T21:06:11","slug":"what-was-your-most-difficult-choice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/03\/what-was-your-most-difficult-choice.html","title":{"rendered":"What Was Your Most Difficult Choice?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We all have to make decisions. Some are easier than others. Choosing what to order for dinner when there\u2019s a large menu may seem tough at the time but it\u2019s insignificant compared to deciding to have a baby or to leave your job without another one in the bag. Of course everything is relative to you and your circumstances. Choosing what to wear for your school reunion may seem like a monumental decision at the time\u2014to you. President Obama may see that as nothing compared to deciding what to do in Iran.<\/p>\n<p>Can you identify your biggest decision? Not one that might have felt big at the time but one that ultimately changed your life. Thinking about it, I had a hard time at first. But now I know it was choosing to move into Manhattan from the house share I had in the burbs, with the intention of reinventing me. I had no idea how I\u2019d make a living but I knew I had to leave teaching. I was terrified after I gave my landlord notice and even more terrified when I got my apartment. But now I recognize that choice gave me my final step out of DoorMatville into a life I love.<\/p>\n<p>So what was your biggest decision? Below is a video that asked this question of a bunch of people. Please share yours in the comments.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<iframe title=\"What was your most difficult choice?\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/RJ9x7SnOC1M?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>***************<\/p>\n<p>Take the <a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-pledge\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-book\" target=\"_blank\">How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/\">http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. And you can post your loving acts <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/post-self-love-actions\" target=\"_blank\">HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts <strong><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/02\/31-days-of-self-love-2012.html\" target=\"_blank\">HERE<\/a><\/strong><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We all have to make decisions. Some are easier than others. Choosing what to order for dinner when there\u2019s a large menu may seem tough at the time but it\u2019s insignificant compared to deciding to have a baby or to leave your job without another one in the bag. 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