{"id":2837,"date":"2012-03-19T12:01:29","date_gmt":"2012-03-19T16:01:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=2837"},"modified":"2012-02-25T11:29:47","modified_gmt":"2012-02-25T16:29:47","slug":"get-an-attitude-of-happiness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/03\/get-an-attitude-of-happiness.html","title":{"rendered":"Get an Attitude of Happiness"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>I\u2019m a happy person\u2014a very happy person! People say they envy me as they try to figure out what I have that they don\u2019t so maybe they can buy it too! Happiness is one of those feelings that\u2019s hard to describe, or define. It comes from a place inside, therefore it\u2019s very unique to everyone. There\u2019s no one-size-fits-all way to be happy. It\u2019s easier to say what happiness doesn\u2019t come from:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Making lots of money<\/strong>: You truly can\u2019t buy happiness. Look at all the rich people who are miserable! Money buys you stuff. You can\u2019t buy inner satisfaction. That comes from working on you. Money is used to soothe hurts you\u2019re holding onto and that soothing doesn\u2019t last long.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Finding someone to marry you: <\/strong>Nobody can make you happy but YOU! Many people make getting married a goal and feel happy when they get there. But\u00a0if they weren\u2019t happy before, it\u2019s a short-lived kind of happiness when the wedding is over.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Feeling powerful over others<\/strong>: Many people feel great having power over others. But you can\u2019t compensate for not feeling good inside by bossing people around. You might get a rush during that time but when you\u2019re alone with yourself, the negatives inside you will dampen that good feeling. Taking control of how you treat yourself lasts.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Losing weight:<\/strong> You\u2019ll be happy to fit into smaller sizes and look better but you\u2019ll probably then begin the struggle to keep the weight off, which makes you unhappy. And, very few people lose enough weight to satisfy their need to be thin. So losing a lot of weight doesn\u2019t even create momentary joy if you\u2019re still feeling like more needs to change or come off.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Getting cosmetic injections or surgery<\/strong>: Changing your appearance does not change who you are inside. Happiness comes from in you, not your external looks. You can cut or tuck or laser away at your face or thighs or tummy, but, you can\u2019t use those tools to get rid of the things inside you that make you discontent with you and your life.<\/p>\n

Ask yourself what makes you happy. Is it stuff or something external? Or are you happy inside too? Self-love can make a big difference in that. Materialistic happiness is fleeting. You feel happy until you\u2019re bored with the latest tech toy which is now not the latest or you\u2019re tired of wearing the outfit you spent a fortune on or you\u2019ve gained a few pounds back and now feel anger instead of joy in your body.<\/p>\n

Hugh Downs said, \u201cA happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.\u201d<\/p>\n

Strive to make yourself happy from the inside out so your attitude is one of consistent happiness. The more you love and accept yourself now, the more happiness you can began to build. Real happiness\u2014built on acceptance of you, separate from your current circumstances\u2014is the kind that endures. Begin to appreciate what you have that doesn\u2019t cost anything:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0The love in your life from friends and family
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Love for yourself
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0The good person you are
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Your integrity
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Overall appreciation for the person you are.<\/p>\n

It can take a while but once you approach happiness from a place of self-appreciation instead of looking for what you can go after to make you happy, you\u2019ll understand the meaning of having an attitude of happiness. I don\u2019t like everything about my body and there are things in my life I\u2019d love to not have but I still love and appreciate me and feel blessed to be who I am. That keeps me happy even on days when everything goes wrong, because my attitude of happiness keeps me from sinking into negatives.<\/p>\n

Start by doing what you can to build your self-love. Read my free book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong>, and in time you\u2019ll see why I smile every day. That’s the kind of happiness that sticks with you!
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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