Have you ever been ready to do something, take a risk, or try something new, then put on the brakes by thinking \u201cWhat if this or that happens?\u201d Most of us have done that. Certain activities seem be scary or intimidating, triggering those \u201cWhat if?\u201d thoughts. Those are assumptions based on nothing but projecting a bad outcome that\u2019s unlikely to happen.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat ifs?\u201d are self-imposed roadblocks to moving forward and making progress in areas that matter to you. Having those kinds of thoughts can get irrational if you let your imagination take you down that road and let your mind conjure up the worst-case scenarios. If you focus on What Is instead of \u201cWhat if?\u201d you\u2019ll get a lot more in life. For example:<\/p>\n
\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cWhat if I ask for a raise and my boss gets mad?\u201d<\/strong> That keeps your confidence low about asking. And it will keep your income lower than necessary if you let the \u201cwhat if?\u201d stop you from asking. What is: You do a good job and deserve a raise. Probably the worst that could happen is your boss says no.<\/p>\n \u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cWhat if I bring up marriage and he breaks up with me?\u201d<\/strong> That keeps you quiet and can create anger if he doesn\u2019t read your mind and bring it up himself. Worrying about what ifs keeps you stuck and won\u2019t get you to the alter. What is: If you want marriage and he breaks up with you for that, it\u2019s better to know now and move on. Chances are you may open the door to a productive discussion about your future.<\/p>\n \u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cWhat if my flight leaves late and I miss my connecting flight?\u201d<\/strong> Why ruin your trip with unnecessary what ifs about your connection, since it doesn\u2019t get you anything but anxious? What is: You won\u2019t know if you\u2019ll make the connection until you arrive and you have a good chance to make the flight. There\u2019s no need to stress the whole first flight for nothing. If you miss it, you\u2019ll deal with it then, when it\u2019s real–when it is.<\/p>\n \u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cWhat if I start my own business and lose everything?\u201d<\/strong> This keeps so many people from following their dreams. What ifs are excuses to put your dreams on hold, until you\u2019re too old and look back with regret that you didn\u2019t try. What is: If you prepare and make the effort, you have a reasonable chance of succeeding. Make sure you have something saved just in case. Yes, you might fail, but you\u2019re a bigger failure if you don\u2019t try and live in regret.<\/p>\n \u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cWhat if I start to say \u2018no\u2019 to people and end up with no friends?\u201d<\/strong> Letting those what ifs stop you keeps you a people pleaser, and assures you won\u2019t have the time for you to be happy. What is: Real friends will accept your decisions as long as you\u2019re not nasty about it. You have a right to say \u201cno\u201d and people will accept it once you try. Do you really want only friends you buy with favors?<\/p>\n When what ifs are stopping you, write down what really scares you and what you can do if it does happen. What ifs are usually much, much worse and scarier than the probable reality. Love yourself enough to replace the what ifs with what is right now. And right now you’re safe. Use affirmations to clear them from your head like \u201cEverything will work out fine.\u201d When your faith is strong, everything is fine! Then the only thing that\u00a0matters is what is .<\/p>\n Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Have you ever been ready to do something, take a risk, or try something new, then put on the brakes by thinking \u201cWhat if this or that happens?\u201d Most of us have done that. Certain activities seem be scary or intimidating, triggering those \u201cWhat if?\u201d thoughts. Those are assumptions based on nothing but projecting a…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":83,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,15],"tags":[297,296],"class_list":["post-2769","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-self-empowerment-confidence","category-self-love-acceptance","tag-living-in-now","tag-what-ifs"],"yoast_head":"\n