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Three cheers for the TV show, How to Look Good Naked<\/a><\/span> with Carson Kressley<\/span> on the Lifetime<\/span> Network! Carson is illustrating what I\u2019ve been saying in my books for years\u2014whehttp:\/\/www.blogger.com\/img\/gl.link.gifn you change your self-perception, you can become more beautiful and improve your body image. <\/p>\n

I joke that my body got MUCH better as I left DoorMatville\u2014without losing a pound! ? <\/span><\/p>\n

When I was a DoorMat I hated myself for not being perfectly thin. Since we often go to extremes, anything that wasn\u2019t thin was fat. I was tall for my age when I was young, and that translated into feeling fat. When I look back on photos of me during those years, I\u2019m amazed at how slender I was. But, it set a tone for me to always feel like I wasn\u2019t good enough. No matter what other nice things there were about me, I never noticed, because I had cellulite blindness\u2014my fat perception was all I saw in the mirror. <\/p>\n

When you feel like you aren\u2019t good enough, you can become a People Pleaser to make up for it like I did.<\/span> That\u2019s how DoorMats develop. <\/p>\n

I believe that body image is the top catalyst\u2014by far\u2014for insecurity in women and it also makes men self-conscious too. So now there\u2019s this new show\u2014How to Look Good Naked<\/a><\/span> On the first episode that aired on Friday night, Carson gave Layla, a woman who has always felt fat and tried many diets, a body perception makeover. It began with her assessment of herself. I cried along with her because I remember how awful I used to feel when I looked at mine. <\/p>\n

Carson helped Layla to find proper fitting undergarments to make her body look better with clothes on<\/span> and also better styles. He also showed her a video with 3 women walking in different styles and outfits. He asked Layla to assess which one weighed the most and which was the sexiest. She had definite picks but SURPRISE! The were all the same woman in different styles. He showed how what you wear and how you carry yourself makes a big difference in your appearance<\/span>. <\/p>\n

Feeling fat makes us try to cover up, wear big clothing in hopes that people won’t see the fat so much.<\/span> But Carson showed it actually makes your body look worse! I remember the days of covering up, not caring what I wore, since I assumed nothing would look good on me. Layla learned how untrue that is!<\/p>\n

By the end of the show, Layla was getting into the groove and feeling good about her body. All her new inner and outer garments helped to change her body image. She said she now felt attractive! The time came for the title of the show to pan out\u2014looking good naked. Layla posed for a photo, sans clothes.<\/span> The verdict? She looked lovely<\/span> according to all the people who viewed her in all her naked glory. I agreed! Once Carson knocked all the distorted perceptions from her self-image, she was able to appreciate herself.<\/p>\n

Perception. Your perception decides if your glass is half empty or half full; if you\u2019re a failure or you just made a mistake; if you\u2019re fat or just not thin.<\/span> That\u2019s why I advocate working more on being loving to yourself. The more YOU love YOU, the more you\u2019ll be open to having a more positive perception of how your body looks. The DoorMat me labeled herself as fat and didn\u2019t see her good qualities. It took me years and someone pulling me in front of a mirror to recognize that I have beautiful green eyes. <\/p>\n

I greatly related to what Layla went through with Carson. I remember my awakening to see myself as the beautiful, sexy hot woman I know I am. I\u2019m still far from size 6. But it no longer matter. I love me and my body now. I think that watching this show will help a lot of people. Good for you Lifetime and Carson Kressley!<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m going to make this Let\u2019s Be Happily Naked week on my blog. This post is part one. Stayed tuned for more later this week!<\/p>\n

If you enjoyed my post, please leave a comment and\/or click on the bookmark and write a short review at some of the sites, especially Stumbleupon and Digg. Thanks!

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