{"id":2514,"date":"2012-01-28T12:01:03","date_gmt":"2012-01-28T17:01:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=2514"},"modified":"2012-01-07T13:39:45","modified_gmt":"2012-01-07T18:39:45","slug":"%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-do-something-spontaneously","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/01\/%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-do-something-spontaneously.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI Love Me\u201d Tip: Do Something Spontaneously"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a><\/em>Today is Day 28 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love.<\/em><\/p>\n

<\/em>It can feel more comfortable to plan your activities in advance. No surprises, No risks. But doing something at the last minute, without planning, can be the most satisfying activities. It doesn\u2019t have to be crazy or a big deal. Accepting a last minute invite can put a smile on your face instead of regret for not knowing about it in advance.<\/p>\n

Leave some free time open. Take a walk and go from there. Take a chance that what you end up doing might be a pleasant surprise. Do something on your terms. Look in the mirror and ask what you\u2019re in the mood to do. Maybe there\u2019s a movie you\u2019ve wanted to see or a store you want to check out. Just get dressed and go, without making advance plans. Put on some music and dance.<\/p>\n

While I often can\u2019t be spontaneous when my schedule is full, I look forward to the times when I can just decide on something and go do it, without excuses or guilt about the laundry waiting to be done or other chores. And when if you can, do a spontaneous trip. I was once invited to London for an event at the last minute. How can I go overseas in two days? It was crazy! But I got a cheap ticket and packed a bag. After the event I got a cheap train ticket to Paris for a few days. It broke my fear of traveling alone and just going when I wanted to.<\/p>\n

Since then I\u2019ve made last minute plans to go somewhere for a few days on several occasions and was always grateful I did. Try something spontaneous that you\u2019d enjoy, however small. It\u2019s a lovely ways to say, \u201cI love me!\u201d
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a>–a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days–and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2011 HERE<\/a><\/strong><\/strong><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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