{"id":251,"date":"2008-03-10T22:51:00","date_gmt":"2008-03-10T22:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/03\/the-arrogance-of-some-powerful-men.html"},"modified":"2008-03-10T22:51:00","modified_gmt":"2008-03-10T22:51:00","slug":"the-arrogance-of-some-powerful-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/03\/the-arrogance-of-some-powerful-men.html","title":{"rendered":"The Arrogance of Some Powerful Men"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Today I heard the disturbing news that my governor was caught hiring a prostitute. The full story hasn\u2019t come out yet, but reports say he hired a woman through a prostitution service in NY to take a train down to Washington DC. When she got there, Governor Eliot Spitzer got caught!<\/span><\/p>\n

This is the man who ran a campaign as the good guy, pledging to fight for ethics reform. When he was NY state Attorney General, he seemed squeaky clean. He was even dubbed \u201cthe sheriff of Wall Street\u201d for his strong campaigns against misconduct in the financial services area, and other industries. I was thrilled when he ran for governor of NY. <\/p>\n

When Spitzer<\/span> won, I thought my state was in good hands. Yet this pillar of politics got caught with his pants down, well almost, anyway. <\/span><\/p>\n

After working to clean up prostitution, he thought he was above the law and still entitled to indulge in the industry he crusaded against. Power does get to the heads of some men! I saw his news conference and he walked in confidently, with a smile on his face, his wife and three daughters by his side. He was solemn when he said his few words. Then he left, to work on healing the wounds to his family. The problem goes a lot deeper than that!<\/p>\n

Why didn\u2019t you think of the repercussions before you let your lower head get so cocky Governor Spitzer? What made you think you were above the law, and above the convictions you had for others? And that you could break the beliefs you said you stood for.<\/p>\n

This reminded me of another politician\u2014hmmm\u2026. \u201cI did not have sex with that woman.\u201d Bill Clinton also had that arrogance! <\/span><\/p>\n

Power addles good sense in men whose egos are overblown from having power.<\/span> I think it makes them feel invincible, like they can\u2019t get caught. Clinton had it bad. Then the southern head gets involved and these men think they can do what they please. And they leave the rest of us wondering how they could be so stupid! Power gone awry! <\/p>\n

I believe that people with good self-esteem have more consideration to others, and more self-respect<\/span>. Self-esteem comes from within. Power doesn\u2019t guarantee having it. Insecure little boys can grow into bigger insecure boys who walk around in a fa\u00e7ade that power creates. They always feel invincible and think they won\u2019t get caught. Or maybe they need to cross lines to make themselves feel better. But it\u2019s no substitute for real self-empowerment.<\/p>\n

We can learn from them.<\/span> Before doing something you know is wrong but think you can get away with it, think again. What would be the consequences of being caught? Loss of job or face? Jail? Fines? Losing someone you care about? Living with knowing what youdid? Ask yourself if it would be worth it. <\/p>\n

The best way to do it is to live your life with integrity. Don\u2019t do things you can get away with if they\u2019re wrong. The Law of Attraction brings your actions back to you.<\/span> Knowing this is another good reason not to do wrong. Nobody is above the law. You may think these men get away with it all but they don\u2019t. You don\u2019t know what goes on in their day-to-day life. Clinton had to face his issues with promiscuity. I\u2019m not sure he\u2019s cured\u2014yet. But I\u2019m sure some of his stuff hit his fan. <\/p>\n

I hate to have Spitzer leave office, but I\u2019m afraid it\u2019s what will happen. And probably should. I don\u2019t know all the details yet so I reserve final judgment. I\u2019m just sorry that power corrupted even the ethical crusader.<\/p>\n

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