{"id":2481,"date":"2012-01-10T12:01:02","date_gmt":"2012-01-10T17:01:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=2481"},"modified":"2012-01-07T13:27:48","modified_gmt":"2012-01-07T18:27:48","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-accepting-kindness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/01\/law-of-attraction-in-action-accepting-kindness.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Accepting Kindness"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a><\/em>Today is Day 10 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love.<\/em><\/p>\n

<\/em>This is post 170 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

DoorMats are really good at giving. We know that. But when we don\u2019t love ourselves and go overboard pleasing for security, we usually give in a non-reciprocal way. When you feel lousy about yourself, it\u2019s hard to receive help and support. Oh yes, it\u2019s easy to give it so people will like you. That came naturally to me. But when someone offered to do something for me I\u2019d immediately find reasons to say \u201cno!\u201d Accepting kindness felt wrong back in DoorMatville!<\/p>\n

If I asked someone to recommend a handyman for a small chore I couldn\u2019t do myself and the person would say he knew how to do it and would be happy to do it for me, I\u2019d strongly explain it was okay for me to pay. If someone had an extra ticket to a ballgame because someone couldn\u2019t go and invited me, I\u2019d insist on paying for it, despite protests that it would have just gone to waste. If a friend offered to take me out for my birthday I\u2019d insist on Dutch treat.<\/p>\n

When you feel low about yourself, it\u2019s hard to accept what you don\u2019t feeling worthy of. When you don\u2019t love yourself, you can\u2019t easily accept love from others.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t allow yourself to accept what people offer you, you won\u2019t get much. Refusing kindness is unloving and tells the Universe you shouldn\u2019t attract it. The Law of Attraction picks up the message that you don\u2019t think you deserve good things from others and you\u2019ll attract less and less. This can reaffirm to you that you aren\u2019t worthy and it becomes a very negative cycle.<\/p>\n

You can change this by making a conscious effort to take things that are offered.<\/p>\n

Learning how to receive is very loving! Do it one small thing at a time to get used to being on the receiving end. Enjoy what you get so the vibration you send to the Law of Attraction says you like getting kindness and want more. The more you accept kindness and enjoy what you get, the more you’ll attract, which says “I love me!” Self-love is nourished by allowing kindness into your life.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a>–a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days–and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2011 HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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