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I was delighted that SUCCESS magazine<\/a><\/span> re-launched with the March issue, which was packed with articles on many people who\u2019ve achieved success that motivate and stimulate new ideas. I love this magazine! Everything is about SUCCESS. Reading it is a constant reminder of going for your own. I applaud its publisher, Darren Hardy, for being innovative in bringing the magazine SUCCESSFULLY to life again. I’ll have samples from the magazine on Wednesday!<\/p>\n

The magazine inspired me to launch my Embracing SUCCESS series<\/span>. I want to explore what success is and different roads for reaching it. I\u2019d hope to get it underway sooner but got delayed with some of my own successes and the crane accident I wrote about last week delayed me further. But now I\u2019m back on track, which I consider a SUCCESS!<\/p>\n

Over the next few weeks I\u2019ll post articles that focus on some aspect of SUCCESS. Starting next week, each Wednesday will have an interview with someone who achieved SUCCESS by following his or her passion.<\/span> Stayed tuned to this page as I update the schedule.<\/p>\n

* Craig Newmark<\/span><\/a>, founder of Craig\u2019s List<\/a><\/span>, the innovative site with free classified ads and much more
* Tim Westergren<\/span><\/a>, Founder of Pandora<\/a><\/span>, the fabulous, free website for creating your own radio stations for your listening pleasure.
* Patrice Tanaka<\/a>, co-chair of CRT\/tanaka and their “whatcanbe” ambassador
* Daniel Glass<\/a>, Head of many major labels and founder of Glassnote Entertainment.
* Patrice Tanaka<\/a>, co-chair of CRT\/tanaka and their “whatcanbe” ambassador
* Lisa Lillien<\/span>,<\/a> founder of Hungry Girl.<\/p>\n

I want to inspire you to go for your own SUCCESS\u2014large and small! <\/span><\/p>\n

I just accepted a deal for my ninth book, Nice Girls CAN Finish First<\/span>, with McGraw-Hill. It will be out early in 2009 but my initial SUCCESS is right now! I\u2019ll celebrate again when it\u2019s out and again and again as it does well. But for now, I celebrate the deal, because that’s the first part.<\/p>\n

Success has a variety of meanings, depending on who\u2019s defining it. The dictionary defines it as an achievement or accomplishment.<\/span> Yet many see it as other things. And many more people don\u2019t recognize their achievements and accomplishments as success. When you look to what you still want instead of what you have, you miss out on the pleasure from having smaller successes. Feeling successful makes you feel good! It\u2019s something to be proud of.<\/p>\n

Yet it becomes elusive to many people, especially those who strive for perfection, which is impossible to achieve. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can find a lot of success in your life if you learn to acknowledge it as such. It\u2019s not just about the big things. Teensy, tiny things you do that you didn\u2019t, or couldn\u2019t, do before should be considered SUCCESS.<\/span> Losing ten pounds is SUCCESS, even if you want to lose fifteen. Even one pound is one more than you lost before. When you celebrate every little baby step you take toward self-improvement, getting more of what you desire, etc., as SUCCESS, you\u2019ll feel more self-appreciation and gratitude. SUCCESS gratitude attracts more successful endeavors.<\/p>\n

Scoffing off the small stuff in pursuit of a bigger picture deprives you of the joy and motivation that acknowledging SUCCESS brings.<\/span><\/p>\n

I invite all of you to send me your definition of SUCCESS, with a link to your site.<\/span> I\u2019ll include them in subsequent posts. I\u2019ve invited other bloggers to share too. If you\u2019d like to do a post on your site about SUCCESS, send me the link and I\u2019ll add it to this page, whenever it comes in.<\/p>\n

My general definition is:<\/span> SUCCESS is every bit of progress you make on any level, and recognizing it. It\u2019s living as the person you want to be and achieving goals with integrity; feeling content with your life and who you are; helping to improve the lives of others.<\/p>\n

Here are some definitions from other bloggers so far<\/span>:<\/p>\n

\u201cMy definition of SUCCESS is reaching a point where I’m content with who I am. I’m getting there, but I know I still have a ways to go. In the meantime, I’ll seek out new experiences and challenge myself to do things out of my comfort zone. That’s the only way I’ll continue to grow as a person.\u201d – Zandria at Keeping Up with Me<\/a>.<\/span> Having overcome her quarterlife crisis, she currently lives in Alexandria, VA, and recently signed up for a belly-dancing class. She also writes about fitness and issues affecting single women for BlogHer.com.<\/p>\n

“To me success is an internal state of mind. It is my ability to be present in every moment, to experience all the pleasure’s that life has to offer, and to have a sunny vision of the moment we call ‘now’. My ideal way to spend ‘now’ is performing actions geared towards the greatest good of all.” – Alex Shalman at Discover Your Potential You<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

“Success is bringing quality into the very action you are taking right now. Quality means bringing the utmost care and attention into every action.” Albert at UrbanMonk.Net<\/a>
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My personal definition is:<\/span> Earning a living doing what I love. Living by my passion. Facing challenges and overcoming them.<\/p>\n

Become aware of your successes, large and small. To that end I\u2019m listing some of mine here. Please join me and post your successes on your site. The more you list, the more appreciation you have for what you\u2019ve accomplished. That leads to feeling more gratitude, which increases the blessings you receive.<\/p>\n

My Own Successes<\/span>
Leaving DoorMatville! Allowing ME to become a priority and learning how to take care of myself is a SUCCESS I live with every day.<\/p>\n

Just accepting a deal for my ninth book, Nice Girls CAN Finish First<\/span>, with McGraw-Hill. It will be out early in 2009.<\/p>\n

Getting asked to do a th
\nird edition of my Start & Run Your Own Record Label<\/a><\/span> for Billboard. It has sold over 75,000 copies so far but my success is in knowing how many people it\u2019s helped and that I can update it dramatically and help more people.<\/p>\n

Each time I finish a run in Central Park\u2014winter, summer, spring and fall\u2014is SUCCESS. I feel especially successful when I manage to finish on a cold and windy day!<\/p>\n

Every fan letter I receive, and I get them every day, telling me the person made an advance or was inspired by reading one of my books reinforces the SUCCESS of my writing.<\/p>\n

Knowing that a woman in Tehran, Iran translated one of my books and though it was banned for publication, shares it with others who benefit from the lessons.<\/p>\n

Cleaning my office. This is hard for me as I have so much going on. When I organize at least one area, it\u2019s a SUCCESSful endeavor!<\/p>\n

Each pound I lose is SUCCESS.<\/p>\n

Starting and maintaining this blog!<\/p>\n

Starting and maintaining this SUCCESS series.<\/p>\n

Waking up smiling everyday. After forgetting how to smile as a DoorMat, each smile means I\u2019ve come far.<\/p>\n

Finishing a chapter in my book\u2026.Finishing part of a chapter\u2026.Finishing a paragraph. One section done to my satisfaction is a SUCCESS!<\/p>\n

Being able to bench press, with perfect form, 35-pound dumbbells!<\/p>\n

Turning down work, even if the money would be nice, because it\u2019s not something I\u2019m passionate about.

I don\u2019t live as a DoorMat anymore!<\/span><\/p>\n

Please make your own list and post it on your site!<\/p>\n

So far these blogs have participated:<\/p>\n

Lorraine at Powerfull Living<\/a> posted What’s Your Definition of Success?<\/a><\/p>\n

David at Slow Down Fast<\/a> posted What Success Mean to You?<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

Albert at Urban Monk<\/a> posted At Touch of Greatness and Success: A Different Definition<\/a><\/span>.<\/p>\n

Jordan at Jordan Cheng’s Success Journal<\/a> posted Do You Need to Be Successful<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you enjoyed my post, please leave a comment and\/or click on the bookmark and write a short review at some of the sites, especially Stumbleupon and Digg. Thanks!

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