{"id":2335,"date":"2012-01-21T12:01:22","date_gmt":"2012-01-21T17:01:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=2335"},"modified":"2012-01-07T13:35:40","modified_gmt":"2012-01-07T18:35:40","slug":"%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-learn-to-say-%e2%80%9cno%e2%80%9d-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/01\/%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-learn-to-say-%e2%80%9cno%e2%80%9d-2.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI Love Me\u201d Tip: Learn to Say \u201cNo\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/2011\/04\/HowDoILoveMeCover1.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-717\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/91\/2011\/04\/HowDoILoveMeCover1-222x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"222\" height=\"300\" \/><\/a><em><em>Today is Day 21 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/\">Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love.<\/em><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><em><\/em><\/em>I\u2019ve encouraged you to say \u201cno\u201d many times yet I know how hard it is to begin to do that. Saying \u201cno\u201d to what you don\u2019t want is a great act of self-love. The more you love yourself, the more you\u2019ll try to say \u201cno.\u201d It\u2019s a wonderful synergy once you get started. The more you treat yourself kindly, the more you\u2019ll want kindness and feel good about it.<\/p>\n<p>I interviewed author <a href=\"http:\/\/www.cherylrichardson.com\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Cheryl Richardson<\/strong> <\/a>about her book <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/exec\/obidos\/ASIN\/140191828X\/daylledeannasch\">The Art of Extreme Self-Care<\/a><\/strong>, almost 3 years ago. You can read her thoughts about the importance of giving yourself exceptional self-care and how to do it <a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/01\/interview-with-cheryl-richardson.html\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>HERE<\/strong><\/a> Cheryl&#8217;s advice is so right on about how taking care of yourself is essential to having a good life. That equals self-love! The principles still apply to everyone.<a href=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/91\/2011\/11\/Cheryl-Richardson.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-2336\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/91\/2011\/11\/Cheryl-Richardson.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"245\" height=\"245\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Every time you say &#8220;no&#8221; to something you don&#8217;t want to do, you say, &#8220;I love me!&#8221; So at least try and and see how great it feels to not have to feel annoyed and frustrated about saying yes and losing time for things you like. I remember seeing Cheryl on Good Morning America when her book came out, talking about how hard it is to say \u201cno\u201d and why it\u2019s a crucial part of good self-care. Here\u2019s a video of that appearance:<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<iframe title=\"Are You A Superwoman?\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/X4KeRgISifE?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>*********************<\/p>\n<p>Take the <a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-pledge\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a>&#8211;a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days&#8211;and get my book, <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-book\" target=\"_blank\">How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/\">http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2011 <strong><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/02\/31-days-of-self-love-posts.html\" target=\"_blank\">HERE<\/a><\/strong><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today is Day 21 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. I\u2019ve encouraged you to say \u201cno\u201d many times yet I know how hard it is to begin to do that. 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