{"id":2264,"date":"2011-01-21T12:01:25","date_gmt":"2011-01-21T17:01:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=2264"},"modified":"2011-10-10T22:22:21","modified_gmt":"2011-10-11T02:22:21","slug":"%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-learn-to-say-%e2%80%9cno%e2%80%9d","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/01\/%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-learn-to-say-%e2%80%9cno%e2%80%9d.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI Love Me\u201d Tip: Learn to Say \u201cNo\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve encouraged you to say \u201cno\u201d many times yet I know how hard it is to begin to do that. Saying \u201cno\u201d to what you don\u2019t want is a great act of self-love. The more you love yourself, the more you\u2019ll try to say \u201cno.\u201d It\u2019s a wonderful synergy once you get started. The more you treat yourself kindly, the more you\u2019ll want kindness and feel good about it.<\/p>\n<p>I i<a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/01\/interview-with-cheryl-richardson.html%20\" target=\"_blank\">nterviewed author <strong>Cheryl Richardson<\/strong><\/a> about her book <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/exec\/obidos\/ASIN\/140191828X\/daylledeannasch\">The Art of Extreme Self-Care<\/a>, almost 3 years ago. The principles still apply to everyone. I remember seeing her on Good Morning America around that time, talking about how hard it is to say \u201cno\u201d and why it\u2019s a crucial part of good self-care. Here\u2019s a video of that appearance:<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<iframe title=\"Are You A Superwoman?\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/X4KeRgISifE?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>*********************<\/p>\n<p>Take the <a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-pledge\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>self-love challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-book\" target=\"_blank\">How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at <a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/\">http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/post-self-love-actions\" target=\"_blank\">HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts <strong><a href=\"..\/2011\/02\/31-days-of-self-love-posts.html\" target=\"_blank\">HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve encouraged you to say \u201cno\u201d many times yet I know how hard it is to begin to do that. Saying \u201cno\u201d to what you don\u2019t want is a great act of self-love. The more you love yourself, the more you\u2019ll try to say \u201cno.\u201d It\u2019s a wonderful synergy once you get started. 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