{"id":2154,"date":"2011-11-01T12:01:20","date_gmt":"2011-11-01T16:01:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=2154"},"modified":"2011-09-13T15:36:29","modified_gmt":"2011-09-13T19:36:29","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-don%e2%80%99t-ask-for-what-you-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/11\/law-of-attraction-in-action-don%e2%80%99t-ask-for-what-you-want.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Don\u2019t Ask for What You Want"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 160 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Serie<\/strong><\/a>s<\/strong> to see how.<\/p>\n

If you read my posts and books you know I encourage asking for what you want so you may be surprised to see the title of this post. While it\u2019s very important to ask for what you want from people, it\u2019s just as important not to ask<\/strong> for what you want when you\u2019re trying to manifest good stuff.<\/p>\n

Asking implies a choice\u2014yes or no. You have to accept that when asking for a favor, a raise, or whatever else you want. But when it comes to manifesting what you want and using the Law of Attraction to do so, you should be as positive as possible about getting it. Asking implies that you\u2019re hoping but not sure. And you want to be sure because that gets you excited and increases your vibration, like I explained in my post, Setting Your Vibrational Tone<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

The more you think and see your desire as a done deal and work up your emotions about this being true, the more manifesting becomes easier.<\/p>\n

I recently talked to Sara, who was anxious for a new job that she\u2019d love doing. She said she\u2019d asked God if He\u2019d please make that happen since she\u2019d been wanting it for 2 years. I asked what else she was doing. Nothing she said. \u201cI\u2019m waiting to see if God will grant my wish.\u201d I then asked if she was excited about getting this new job. \u201cNo,\u201d she said almost sadly, \u201csince I don\u2019t know if I\u2019ll get it.\u201d I warned her that she probably wouldn\u2019t since she sent the Universe a message that said she doubted it would happen.<\/p>\n

When your emotions show doubt it reflects a lack of faith, which the Law of Attraction picks up on you not expecting to get it. And you don’t!<\/p>\n

Sara was surprised but asked for my help. I suggested she focus on the job she wanted instead of asking for it. Your strong desire to get what you want begins the process of attracting it. I told her to:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Picture yourself doing the job.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Think of all the good things that you\u2019ll have once you get it.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Keep that job in mind for everything you do.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Begin making small choices based on what you\u2019ll need when you get the job.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Express gratitude for it as if it\u2019s already yours.<\/p>\n

Sara was skeptical but did it. She stopped asking for a new job and began to think as if she had the job already. She got excited about having it. It took her some time since this was a new concept for her. But she did what she could, especially giving thanks for having the job. She said once she got into the swing of it, it felt good.\u00a0 And those good feelings are what\u2019s needed to get what you want.<\/p>\n

Four months later Sara got the job offer of her dreams. She called to tell me that the more she felt excited about getting a good job, the more opportunities opened up. When she got called for a big interview, she reinforced faith that if this job was meant for her highest good it was hers. And she aced the interview! Her vision made her more confident going in and the job was hers.<\/p>\n

Your true power is in Knowing <\/strong><\/a>you have it as I said in my Law of Attraction in Action post. Don\u2019t worry about how it will happen. Just know that it\u2019s yours and trust the \u201cdirections\u201d will come to you when needed. Ask people for what you want and thank the Universe for what you\u2019re trying to manifest. I always put it into God\u2019s hands and feel good about knowing that will make it happen.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE.<\/strong><\/a>
\n*********************<\/p>\n

Take the self-love challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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