{"id":2056,"date":"2011-10-11T12:01:24","date_gmt":"2011-10-11T16:01:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=2056"},"modified":"2011-08-22T22:24:05","modified_gmt":"2011-08-23T02:24:05","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-lift-up-your-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/10\/law-of-attraction-in-action-lift-up-your-expectations.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Lift Up Your Expectations!"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 157 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Serie<\/strong><\/a>s to see how.<\/p>\n

What do you aspire to be or do or have? I sometimes ask that when I\u2019m speaking and get a whole gamut of answers. Some are very realistic\u2014getting a small raise each year, maybe being able to buy a house one day, and hoping to have enough money when they retire. Some confess to big dreams with embarrassment. They qualify everything with \u201cIt probably won\u2019t happen\u201d or \u201cI shouldn\u2019t even be thinking about this in my position.\u201d So many of us get brainwashed into knowing our place in life that it knocks the big dreams right out of our heads. The more insecure you feel, the less you\u2019re likely to dream BIG.<\/p>\n

When I was a DoorMat my self-image was poor. I knew what I wanted to do but became a teacher like I was told to do. I spent years feeling like my creative talent was going to waste but didn\u2019t have the nerve to even consider doing what appealed to me. Funnily enough, I did know that I had special talent but I didn\u2019t have the nerve to figure out how to leave the box I put myself in to use it in satisfying ways. Instead, I gave it away just to use it. Other teachers knew that I\u2019d design their bulletin boards and do the artwork. I wrote plays for classes that weren\u2019t mine and wrote songs and poems for their presentations.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re stuck in a place of believing you can\u2019t do much more than you\u2019re doing now, it\u2019s hard to really dig deep and pull out the dreams that get your heart dancing.<\/p>\n

I know how that feels. It triggers envy when you see others with what you\u2019d like and sadness knowing it\u2019s possible but believing not for you. And I also know the sheer, exhilarating, smile stimulating experience of allowing yourself to dream, and to go after what you want because I do it often now! I live by the thought that if I can dream it, I can make it happen. DoorMats leave their dreams in their beds. People pleasers help others make their dreams come true.<\/p>\n

People who love themselves know that they have a right to dream big, and to make their dreams come true.<\/p>\n

If you just expect to have a little, you most likely will never have a lot. If you have gigantic expectations, chances are you\u2019ll still have a lot even if you don\u2019t manifest everything. I was recently at an event and the speaker did an exercise about attracting more money. She told us to write down the amount we want by next year and said that $50,000 is a good number. That\u2019s what most people wrote. Someone proudly announced she\u2019d gone to $100,000. I kept my mouth shut, wondering what people would think if they knew I wrote 3 million! Why not?<\/p>\n

If I expect to make $50,000, I probably won\u2019t get 3 million. While expecting to make 3 million doesn\u2019t guarantee I\u2019ll get it, it sure gives me a better chance than limiting the amount!<\/p>\n

Les Brown said, \u201cNo one rises to low expectations.\u201d<\/p>\n

Even if I don\u2019t make the full 3 million, maybe I\u2019ll get 1million!\u00a0 But I have little chance of making even $100,000 if I set a goal of $50,000. My intention is to have the 3 million by next year. That\u2019s where I put my thoughts. I don\u2019t go to a mindset of being realistic about how can I get that kind of money? That\u2019s for the Universe to decide. When I declared I\u2019d get 2 more book deals within a year of getting my first, people said it was impossible but I got that. It doesn\u2019t matter what others think.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s your dreams and YOUR choice to expect colossally great things for your highest good.<\/p>\n

I kept my number silent as others at the event when I wrote down 3 million as my goal since I had no desire to defend why I wrote it when people questioned such a big number or teased me or became naysayers. Only I needed to know the number!\u00a0 No need to justify it to others. If everyone else preferred to keep their small, it was their business. Mine is to dream BIG.<\/p>\n

Think about what you\u2019d really like to have. How can you expand your dreams to give you something to rise up to, not keep you in the same basic place. Write it down. Consider how you might get it. Keep it in your thoughts. I wrote my number on a small hot pink card and put it in my wallet. Whenever I see the pink sticking up from my other cards, I smile, knowing my intention. It keeps it on my mind and lends energy to my wallet, for the money I want in it!<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Take the self-love challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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