{"id":202,"date":"2008-08-08T17:15:00","date_gmt":"2008-08-08T17:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/08\/we-all-stink-sometimes.html"},"modified":"2008-08-08T17:15:00","modified_gmt":"2008-08-08T17:15:00","slug":"we-all-stink-sometimes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/08\/we-all-stink-sometimes.html","title":{"rendered":"We All Stink Sometimes"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>There are lots of unrealistic expectations that MANY women, and some men, try to live up to. We push ourselves to lose weight to fit the unrealistic body image that the media portrays as normal. We strive for perfection at all costs. When I was a DoorMat, I did everything I could to be what I thought people expected. It didn\u2019t always work out that way but oh, how I tried. Our appearance isn\u2019t the only area of unrealistic expectations.<\/p>\n

Women take perfection to a whole other level when it comes to being sweet smelling and clean for guys,<\/span> who often reinforce this expectation, while having a lot less regard for their own odors.<\/p>\n

Some men expect women to be perfect about hygiene and body functions. And many of us buy into needing to be \u201cladylike\u201d\u2014neat, clean, soft, and sweet smelling. We shave and tweeze and wax and exfoliate and use creams and bathe, and anything else we can do to maintain that image. What pressure many women go through to camouflage what happens naturally!<\/p>\n

Things that are considered totally acceptable in men may be deemed unladylike in women.<\/span> Yet our bodies function in similar ways and emit odors too!<\/p>\n

Natural body functions are often seen as unfeminine. While a majority of both sexes prefer not to think about it, women sweat, have gas, and do other things that create odors. I don\u2019t want to gross out anyone, but it\u2019s true. Being in denial is stressful for women, and often unhealthy if we hold things in. Women are human! Contrary to media images of odorless, noiseless beings, women have body functions that create sounds and odors.<\/p>\n

Yet many of us go to great lengths to hide it. It does take its toll.<\/span><\/p>\n

Some women are in denial about what\u2019s considered unfeminine. I\u2019ve heard some say they don\u2019t sweat\u2014they \u201cglow\u201d or \u201cradiate.\u201d Hello! We all sweat, and if it\u2019s hot and sticky, it stinks. When I return from a run in Central Park, I\u2019m happy to avoid everyone! Let\u2019s be real. We\u2019re human. But our fear of turning men off creates tremendous pressure. It\u2019s time for everyone to accept that women are as human as men.<\/p>\n

Where does the need to deny natural bi-products from? Some of it is just insecurity in general. Not being comfortable in your own skin can make you more self-conscious about anything that\u2019s not perfect. But it takes on another level when you\u2019re afraid your romantic partner will get turned off by your natural body functions<\/span>. Some men experience it too. Even though everyone has some stinky moments, it can be embarrassing in front of others, especially those you want to think well of you.<\/p>\n

But it goes from silly to unhealthy when it comes to some bathroom functions. You know what I mean! Many, and I mean MANY women say they\u2019d rather make themselves sick by holding in what needs to come out because of the smell. Everyone does something that smells. Yet we all act like ours is unique. While I know this, I\u2019m with those of you who feel self-conscious.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s embarrassing to leave an odor behind. Few people feel good about leaving a bathroom stinky or going into one after someone else left it stinky. But not going for days is unhealthy and shouldn\u2019t happen. MANY women say they hold it in for days and then take a laxative when they\u2019re alone. This is detrimental to your health!<\/p>\n

Well I have good news for men and women who are embarrassed to go to the bathroom and leave an odor behind<\/span>.<\/p>\n

I just tried a product called Poo~Pourri <\/span><\/a>\u00ae and can attest that it works. Suzy Batiz<\/span> was into natural products and learned how to use aromatherapy and essential oils. She created a spray for the toilet bowl using all-natural essential oils. You spray it directly into the toilet water before sitting down. The oils absorb the odor and flush it down. It doesn\u2019t mask odor like air fresheners. It removes it. Poo~Pourri<\/span><\/a> \u00ae traps odors under a layer of film. Then you flush it all down.<\/p>\n

After flushing, all that lingers is a pleasant scent. So people who don’t know you use Poo~Pourri<\/span><\/a> will think yours does smell sweet! There are choices of scents to order. Another perk is that the packaging is very nice and looks discreet on your shelf. They also make it in a small bottle size so you can have it with you when visiting friends, for a romantic sleepover, at work and any time you might hesitate to go to the bathroom because others are around.<\/p>\n

Congratulations to Suzy Batiz for creating a product that will help millions of women keep their digestion regular, alleviate embarrassment for many men, and allow everyone to use the bathroom, wince free! From now on, I\u2019ll keep it with me! ?Check out Poo~Pourri<\/span><\/a> for yourself.<\/p>\n

If you enjoyed my post, please leave a comment and\/or click on the bookmark and write a short review at some of the sites, especially Stumbleupon and Digg. Thanks!

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