{"id":2003,"date":"2011-09-26T12:01:52","date_gmt":"2011-09-26T16:01:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=2003"},"modified":"2011-08-13T21:58:31","modified_gmt":"2011-08-14T01:58:31","slug":"make-the-journey-your-goal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/09\/make-the-journey-your-goal.html","title":{"rendered":"Make the Journey Your Goal"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>I do believe in setting goals. They help guide you to achieving what you\u2019d like. Having them can keep you focused. But too often we make the end results the only thing that matters. That limits your pleasure and discounts what happens on the path to reaching them. Every little thing you do on the way to making your goals a reality is valuable and could be enjoyed if you pay attention.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The journey is actually the most important part of your accomplishments!<\/p>\n

Enjoy the process of what you go through to get what you want. I had a long journey out of DoorMatville. Some of it was tough; most of it rewarding. All of it was necessary to get where I am today. With each new little milestone\u2014each time I said \u201cno\u201d to what I didn\u2019t want or each toxic person I permanently walked away from or each little loving thing I did for me\u2014my joy increased.<\/p>\n

Quite frankly, I was in awe of myself at times. After thinking so poorly of who I was, it was amazing to actually almost watch myself taking empowering steps. I refer to my growth as my journey into self. As I looked inside and decided I was worth making happy, change began. I had to give myself pep talks and sometimes use all my energy to maintain the patience needed to wait for the bigger changes. I\u2019m grateful that I realized from the beginning the importance of enjoying the journey.<\/p>\n

Have fun as you go!<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t wait till the end of journey to appreciate what you did.<\/strong> All the steps you put into making a goal happen should be relished. I often hear people say versions of \u201cI won\u2019t be happy until I finish____.\u201d They see getting to goals as a struggle and are so focused on getting the brass ring that they don\u2019t enjoy riding the carousel. Life goes on and on. Reaching a goal doesn\u2019t stop that.<\/p>\n

If you see life as a journey and each milestone and goal achieved as highlights of the journey\u2014instead of the whole enchilada\u2014you can enjoy your whole life more.<\/p>\n

I have wonderful things going on. I\u2019m writing a book I believe in. But I\u2019m not waiting until it\u2019s finished to revel in it. I love every second of the writing and actually feel let down when a book is done. That can happen when a goal is accomplished. Knowing you can continue on the lovely journey of your life helps make every day special. I’ll keep writing books! The thrill of going after what you want can be even better than getting it. You don\u2019t need to go after an end to feel satisfied. Every day is part of your process and should be enjoyed!<\/p>\n

When you focus on enjoying every minute of every day, life feels better every day. Enjoy your whole journey and life will take on a much better tone.
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Take the self-love challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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