{"id":20,"date":"2010-03-24T10:59:00","date_gmt":"2010-03-24T10:59:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/03\/law-of-attraction-in-action-running-from-problems.html"},"modified":"2010-03-24T10:59:00","modified_gmt":"2010-03-24T10:59:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-running-from-problems","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/03\/law-of-attraction-in-action-running-from-problems.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Running from Problems"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 79 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series<\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

A woman I\u2019ll call Tara came to me years ago. She was unhappy. As we spoke, I could feel her struggling to act cheerful when she clearly didn\u2019t feel that way. Tara was unnerved at getting older and didn\u2019t like the work she did but couldn\u2019t figure out what she did want to do. She lived in NYC and said she was done with it. I told her the problem wasn\u2019t NYC but that she was unhappy inside, which reflected in everything she did.<\/p>\n

Discontent attracts more discontent!<\/span><\/p>\n

Tara refused to see that. She sublet her apartment and moved far away in search of happiness. Sadly, she didn\u2019t find it and came running back to NY after 3 months, saying she missed it. Tara tried to make it work for the next year but left for another city when her unhappiness got too much for her. This became a pattern she couldn\u2019t break. She\u2019d move to another city, convince herself this was the solution for her unhappiness, talk about how great it was, and then return to NY even more disillusioned that she couldn\u2019t find what she wanted.<\/p>\n

You can run but can\u2019t hide from your inner issues. They go with you wherever you go!<\/span><\/p>\n

People often think that a new location will fix what\u2019s wrong with their lives but that rarely works. When you\u2019re not happy, fixing what\u2019s blocking happiness is an inside job. Tara wasn\u2019t happy with herself. Her self-loathing was evident to me, which also meant it was evident to the Universe. The more she tried to run away from her unhappiness, the more unhappy she became. She did everything she could to change her life on the outside, but could not look at herself and see where the problem originated from.<\/p>\n

A new location doesn\u2019t change who you are or what you feel about yourself. Nor does it erase problems. Only YOU can do that!<\/span><\/p>\n

Each time Tara moved, she brought more than just physical baggage with her. All her issues went with her too. She\u2019d revel in starting over in a new city for a little while. It was fun. But after she settled in, her inner unhappiness reared its head and life didn\u2019t feel good anymore. Moving to a new city far from home can be a tough adjustment even when you feel good. But when you don\u2019t love yourself and your inner thoughts and feelings are in turmoil, moving can lead to even more issues.<\/p>\n

External efforts don\u2019t heal inner wounds. And there\u2019s little positive stuff that you can send for the Law of Attraction to work with if your inner emotions are negative.<\/span><\/p>\n

When I was a DoorMat, I looked to others for fulfillment and happiness. I had to have a man to complete me. Being alone to do anything was out of the question. I looked for every external way to soothe the hurt I felt inside but only attracted more hurt. It took many years of unhappiness to finally accept that I had to work on me, and develop my self-esteem from the inside out. Learning to truly love myself was the answer! The more I loved me and my self-esteem grew, the bigger the vehicle I had to leave DoorMatville on.<\/p>\n

Inner healing and love attracts peace with yourself. The best part of it is that everyone can have it and it doesn\u2019t cost anything\u2014except for shedding negative baggage.<\/span><\/p>\n

I kept telling this to Tara but her strong denials made her deaf and blind to reality. She bought herself more clothes. Took a trip, but returned with the same baggage she\u2019d always had, except that it increased since it attracted more in her journey. If you\u2019re unhappy and looking to see what you can change in your life, look inward. Ask:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Do I love myself?
\u2022 Can I accept me exactly the way I am right now?
\u2022 Am I WILLING to look inside and work on healing inner wounds?
\u2022 Am I WILLING to work on loving and accepting myself?<\/p>\n

Be honest about your answers! Denial can skewer your perspective. Everyone can use more self-love. I like having as much as I can. I\u2019ve had many posts on how to show yourself more love and will continue to post on this very important topic. Please be more conscious about doing loving things for you. Self-kindness helps to heal. Sometimes you might need therapy with a professional.<\/p>\n

Taking steps to become a whole person who accepts him\/herself as you are lightens the baggage you carry with you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Negative baggage attracts negative circumstances, no matter what you do on the outside or where you move to. If you want to be happy, make an effort to face the feelings you may try to stifle or run away from. As you do, you\u2019ll get closer to a place that makes you happy no matter where you are. Then the Law of Attraction can support your happiness!<\/p>\n

See all the Law of Attraction in Action Series.<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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