{"id":196,"date":"2008-08-11T22:17:00","date_gmt":"2008-08-11T22:17:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/08\/law-of-attraction-in-action-concrete-use-of-this-power.html"},"modified":"2008-08-11T22:17:00","modified_gmt":"2008-08-11T22:17:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-concrete-use-of-this-power","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/08\/law-of-attraction-in-action-concrete-use-of-this-power.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Concrete Use of This Power"},"content":{"rendered":"

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This is the first in a series on using the Law of Attraction. There\u2019s been a lot of hype about it lately. When Oprah did some shows when the book and DVD, The Secret<\/span>, came out, it sold like crazy. Many people are looking for easy answers and ways to get what they want. The idea of expressing what you want, and getting it, is very appealing.<\/p>\n

But using the Law of Attraction isn\u2019t nearly as simple as The Secret made it look. Nor is it a secret!<\/span><\/p>\n

The people in The Secret<\/span> DVD didn\u2019t invent or discover the Law of Attraction. My \u201cidol,\u201d Louise Hay<\/span><\/a>, wrote about it in 1984, in her book, You Can Heal Your Life<\/span><\/a>. When I read this book, I began life as I know it today. It made me realize that I lived a spiritual lifestyle because when I expected things to happen from my heart, they did.<\/p>\n

The book emphasizes that we get back what we give out. Our thoughts control what happens to us and what we get.<\/span> It was a wakeup call that could shatter the earthquake Richter scale. I devoured its pages as light bulbs went off, then bells and whistles woke me up completely. That was when the DoorMat fully found her power! Since then, I\u2019ve used the Law of Attraction to shed my DoorMat layers and become a very empowered woman.<\/p>\n

So I watched The Secret DVD after seeing it on Oprah. I was curious. And I learned a lot. <\/span><\/p>\n

But I do think it\u2019s misleading in how they make getting what you want sound so easy. I wasn\u2019t a novice when I watched, so I could take from it what was helpful. Someone looking for a quick fix might watch, wish for something, and then give up when it didn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n

Now Louise Hay<\/span><\/a> has put out her own DVD, You Can Heal Your Life<\/span><\/a>, the movie, expanded version<\/span>. It\u2019s simple and a lot clearer. It doesn\u2019t have the drama of a little boy wishing for a bicycle and getting it. The expanded movie has talks by a variety of people I admire. It\u2019s a lot cheaper than The Secret, yet it has the bonus input from people I hold in high esteem, including Wayne Dyer, Christiane Northrup <\/span>and Esther Hicks<\/span>. They and many more are in the movie too! Louise Hay<\/span><\/a> narrates it all in her soothing voice.<\/p>\n

Louise Hay<\/span><\/a>\u2019s movie bought me back to my spiritual roots. In loving tones, expert after expert shares their wisdom. It reminded me of some tools that I already know but don\u2019t remember to use. Reading or watching something once can be very helpful. Reading and watching more than once reinforces the principles. Over the next few weeks I\u2019ll share some of the lessons on this DVD and how I\u2019ve used them for my benefit. Since watching it, I\u2019ve decided that I must learn all I can and focus on implementing what I learn.<\/p>\n

One thing I was reminded of is to change my perception of what seems like a negative situation.<\/span><\/p>\n

The morning after my conscious was raised, I got an email from the agent for my last book, with the subject saying, \u201cBad news. This is awful.\u201d Before I read the message, I affirmed that the news would be good.<\/span> When I opened it, I learned a writer had questioned the need for my book in her newspaper column. It\u2019s a popular paper and she has a popular column. My first response was ouch!<\/p>\n

Then I remembered my lesson and looked for the good in the situation. <\/span><\/p>\n

The writer didn\u2019t trash the book. She just didn\u2019t think it was necessary. So it wasn\u2019t negative! I wrote the agent back saying that I was blessed to have this article about the book. While it wasn\u2019t positive, it did make a lot of people aware of my title. And I expected something good to come from it. An hour tater, l began to get emails from people who heard Howard Stern<\/span> talking about my book! Robin had read the article and mentioned the title on air. That began a discussion about it. Nothing negative. Just talking about the book itself.
I expected it to become a positive and it really did! <\/span><\/p>\n

Coincidence? Skeptics think so. But I know that expecting a positive from that seemingly negative situation made it happen. I\u2019ve done it many times every since. MANY! Looking for the blessing in all situations helps you to find them. Next time something negative happens to you, use affirmations to turn it around:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 \u201cEverything will work out for my highest good.
\u2022 \u201cEverything happens for a reason. Whatever will be will be.\u201d
\u2022 \u201cOut of this only good will come.\u201d<\/p>\n

You can turn situations around with your thoughts if you consciously choose to. <\/span>Look for the good in what you don\u2019t like. There\u2019s always something. Many years ago, before I was published, I\u2019d written a book and got a top agent to rep me. She said there would probably be a bidding war on my book and was asking for 6 figures. She suggested I buy a good, conservative suit to wear to meetings with potential editors. So I did, even though it wasn\u2019t my style, I dropped $300 on one she liked.<\/p>\n

I go very excited and told everyone I knew. Six figures seemed like a lot so I thought about what I\u2019d do with that money. But it all fell through. Kaboom! No offers. Not one.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was devastated\u2014for a few hours. In the past it would have made me give up and be depressed, living in a \u201cwhy me?\u201d mentality. But after licking my wounds, I affirmed that it happened for a reason and I\u2019d discover it when the time as right.<\/span> I\u2019ve learned to look back to find reasons <\/span>for things I don\u2019t like happen. It may take a while but I ALWAYS find the reason. ALWAYS! Finding reasons for why things didn\u2019t go the way you wanted you to allows you to create more blessings.<\/p>\n

Finding reasons also helps reinforce accepting that everything happens for a reason.<\/span> Now that I believe it with all my heart, I can relax if things don\u2019t go my way.<\/p>\n

Not getting a book deal felt like a setback at first. I was speaking often and attendees wanted to buy my book. Since I didn\u2019t get a book deal, over the next year I created 6 self-empowerment print newsletters so I\u2019d have something to sell. It forced me to learn how to do graphics on my computer and I designed a really nice publication. People subscribed. I wrote articles I felt proud of. Doing it helped me truly find my writing voice. I wrote for my readers, not for an agent or publisher. Doing this newsletter gave me the confidence to pursue my writing career harder.<\/p>\n

I’m selling them out for 8 bucks for all 6, including postage (original price was $18.50). If you’re interested, email me at daylle@daylle.com to find out how to get them. They were my magic wands, the first step towards my freedom to do what I wanted.<\/p>\n

It took over a year but I found several reasons for not getting a book deal<\/span>: I was meant to write the newsletter first, to define my writing voice more clearly. Later, I realized that I was glad I didn\u2019t write the original book. It would have sent me in a different direction and I love the one I\u2019m in now!<\/p>\n

Find the reasons for why your life takes a path you don\u2019t like. Look back and figure out what blessings came out of what seemed negative. If you look, you\u2019ll find them. Part of using the Law of Attraction is accepting that good can come out of anything. That allows your life to flow peacefully, instead of getting stressed out about life\u2019s road bumps. If you want a real spiritual treat, pick up You Can Heal Your Life<\/span><\/a>, the movie, expanded version<\/span>. You can watch the movie itself or when you need a shorter reinforcement, watch one of Louise\u2019s guests give a talk. This double CD packs a huge punch for a lot less than The Secret. It takes you on a clearer path too, to find your way to using the Law of Attraction effectively.<\/p>\n

Stay tuned for more posts on this topic.<\/p>\n

If you enjoyed my post, please leave a comment and\/or click on the bookmark and write a short review at some of the sites, especially Stumbleupon and Digg. Thanks!

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