{"id":193,"date":"2008-09-02T11:17:00","date_gmt":"2008-09-02T11:17:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/09\/the-law-of-attraction-in-action-kindness.html"},"modified":"2008-09-02T11:17:00","modified_gmt":"2008-09-02T11:17:00","slug":"the-law-of-attraction-in-action-kindness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/09\/the-law-of-attraction-in-action-kindness.html","title":{"rendered":"The Law of Attraction in Action: Kindness"},"content":{"rendered":"

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This is my third start the week post in my series on the Law of Attraction that was inspired by watching Louise Hay\u2019s You Can Heal Your Life<\/span><\/a>, the movie, expanded version. I learned about the Law of Attraction from her books and was re-inspired by watching the DVD with so many great guests.<\/p>\n

We all have the power to heal our lives.<\/span> You influence what happens to you each moment. When you stay conscious of your actions and thoughts, you can guide your path to more goodies.<\/p>\n

But, the best way to attract good stuff is to make doing good stuff a lifestyle. <\/span><\/p>\n

My next book, Nice Girls Can Finish First<\/span> disputes the belief that nice guys finish last. But I\u2019m talking REAL NICE, not doing things for others so they\u2019ll like you or to get something in return. Giving unconditional love and kindness reaps the most rewards!<\/p>\n

When I lived in DoorMatville, I thought I was nice, but I wasn\u2019t. I desperately needed to be liked and did things for others, often at the expense of my time, money or other things I couldn\u2019t afford. Having people around me and being \u201cliked\u201d by everyone was worth sacrificing my own needs! I stifled the reality that people were with me because I bought them. Deep down, I still felt lonely, since I knew there were few people I could truly count on.<\/p>\n

Fast forward to today: I still like to help people when I can but it\u2019s to be kind, not to barter for something. <\/span><\/p>\n

The Law of Attraction is always on. It doesn\u2019t just work when you do or think something special. When I was a DoorMat, I attracted more situations that helped me continue to be a DoorMat. Today, being a kind person attracts real kindness to me. I\u2019m not kind for reciprocation. When you\u2019re kind, you may not get a reward for it instantly. But it does come back to you, especially if you\u2019re aware enough to recognize when it does. <\/span><\/p>\n

A few weeks ago, I stopped into Au Bon Pain, one of my favorite places to grab a quick bite or cup of their awesome hazelnut coffee. An elderly lady with a walker was struggling to reach the coffee and asked if I\u2019d help her. I was happy to. So I filled her cup, put in the milk, walked her to the cashier and then to a table. To me it was no big deal\u2014a few minutes of time to do what seemed like just common courtesy to a senior. I felt good helping and she was grateful\u2014a win\/win in my book!<\/p>\n

So I was surprised when the manager gave me a half price employee discount to thank me for helping the lady. Instant Law of Attraction result!<\/span><\/p>\n

I was in the same Au Bon Pain on Saturday. Surprisingly, there was another senior in need of help. Once again I provided assistance\u2014a mere 2 minutes of time to be kind. When I got to the register, I joked with the same manager that I seem to come in when seniors have problems. He remembered me and profusely thanked me for being kind, and, said my purchase was on him. He appreciated my reaching out to help and wanted to show his gratitude.<\/p>\n

The Law of Attractions doesn\u2019t always work so fast. It is fun when it does. <\/span><\/p>\n

This was a strong reminder of how REAL kindness attracts more kindness. Some people encourage practicing \u201crandom acts of kindness.\u201d To me that means being kind to others when you can, without expecting something in return. For me the act of kindness is reward enough. I enjoy knowing that I\u2019ve helped someone when possible. I did greatly appreciate the bonus I got at Au Bon Pain. It\u2019s nice to see that others appreciate kindness. But I did it without knowing what I\u2019d receive.<\/p>\n

Keep your eyes open for at least the next day and see if you can find a way to be kind to someone, just because.<\/span><\/p>\n

Take pleasure in knowing you\u2019ve made someone\u2019s day a little brighter. It truly will come back to you, often in ways you least expect, like it did for me. The more good you put out, the more good you\u2019ll receive. That\u2019s how the Law of Attraction works!<\/p>\n

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