{"id":190,"date":"2008-09-15T13:41:00","date_gmt":"2008-09-15T13:41:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/09\/law-of-attraction-in-action-smiling-in-your-mirror-of-other-people.html"},"modified":"2008-09-15T13:41:00","modified_gmt":"2008-09-15T13:41:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-smiling-in-your-mirror-of-other-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/09\/law-of-attraction-in-action-smiling-in-your-mirror-of-other-people.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Smiling in Your Mirror of Other People"},"content":{"rendered":"

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This is my fifth post in my Monday series on the Law of Attraction, inspired by watching Louise Hay<\/span>\u2019s You Can Heal Your Life<\/span><\/a>, the movie, expanded version.<\/p>\n

Yesterday I was in a special mood today. Some things had gone well for me. I was doing some errands and walked by a construction worker who asked, \u201chow are you doing today?\u201d Normally I get very annoyed when men talk to me on the street. While I\u2019m very friendly, I tend to put up blinders when I walk in public since I\u2019ve had some bad experiences in the past when I responded. This is probably a reason why some people perceive New Yorkers as being cold. We\u2019re not! But there are some unsavory characters here.<\/p>\n

Construction workers can be annoying. Responding to a friendly hi from one can lead to personal comments about body parts or sexual innuendos. It\u2019s uncomfortable to have to field these kind of statements. And then there are men who try to put women on the spot to talk to them. It\u2019s starts with an innocent comment but if we respond to be polite, it can morph into an intrusion.<\/p>\n

So I tend to ignore all comment, etc. to avoid an unpleasant situation. Until today\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m not sure why but when the construction worker asked how I was doing, I breezed by him and replied, \u201cI\u2019m great. And how are you?\u201d And I smiled. He smiled back, perhaps surprised to get an answer, and friendliness. It felt good and I took the good feeling with me, walking away smiling. And a funny thing happened.<\/p>\n

The Law of Attraction brought that vibe back to me for the rest of the day.<\/span><\/p>\n

I went to the supermarket and the guy behind the deli counter said, \u201chi, how are you doing today?\u201d So did the cashier. All day long people smiled and asked how I was doing. It put me in a good mood each time. I smiled a lot more than I normally do while doing mundane errands. After a while I even laughed to myself. Changing my expectation of getting a bad result from being friendly to strangers attracted friendliness from people I didn\u2019t know wherever I went.<\/p>\n

We get back what we put out. That Law of Attraction works for or against us in all areas of living and interactions with people.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you walk around with a chip on your shoulder, you\u2019ll meet more people whose behavior reflects the ones who put the chip there since that\u2019s the expectation you\u2019re putting out. If your demeanor is a friendly one, more people will be friendly to you. Yesterday I felt cheerier than I have in a while. Responding in a friendly manner to the construction worker was a simple thing that put me in a good mood for the entire day<\/span> because I got friendliness and good cheer from everyone who crossed my path.<\/p>\n

While I don\u2019t encourage talking to all strangers who talk to you, be aware of how the Law of Attraction<\/span> brings friendliness and smiles back to you. New York may seem unfriendly to many people but in my little corner of it, it\u2019s bright and cheerful. I like to be friendly, expect friendliness, and my world is friendly!<\/span><\/p>\n

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