{"id":187,"date":"2008-09-30T17:08:00","date_gmt":"2008-09-30T17:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/09\/the-law-of-attraction-in-action-who-are-you.html"},"modified":"2008-09-30T17:08:00","modified_gmt":"2008-09-30T17:08:00","slug":"the-law-of-attraction-in-action-who-are-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2008\/09\/the-law-of-attraction-in-action-who-are-you.html","title":{"rendered":"The Law of Attraction in Action: Who Are You?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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This is my seventh post in my Monday series on the Law of Attraction, inspired by watching Louise Hay<\/span>\u2019s You Can Heal Your Life<\/span><\/a>, the movie, expanded version. I know it\u2019s Tuesday but I\u2019m traveling and didn\u2019t have Internet access yesterday.<\/p>\n

While I was at the college event I spoke at last week, I noticed something lovely. The people at Demo Entertainment Group<\/span><\/a>, who put the event together, had very positive outlooks. They were friendly, happy, enthusiastic and considerate. And guess what? The Law of Attraction brought them volunteers with the same qualities. And attendees. The event was charged with great energy and cheer. Lucky?! I don\u2019t think so!<\/p>\n

The Law of Attraction brings you like-minded people. Your persona sends out vibes that attracts more of the kind of person you are.<\/span><\/p>\n

Everyone you come into contact with mirrors something about you<\/span>. They\u2019re all attracted for a reason. Someone might reflect your good qualities or something about you that needs changing. When I first heard this concept, I tried to figure out why I\u2019d attracted the boyfriend I\u2019d just broken up with. I didn\u2019t like who he was as a person, which is why I ended it. He was very critical, with a perfectionist manner. He was hard on himself and picked on me. So what did he reflect? His criticism was directed at qualities I didn\u2019t like either. It made me more aware of a need to change the habits I defended to him.<\/p>\n

Negative people can teach us valuable lessons<\/span>. I became a better person by changing some of my ways, once I got rid of my biggest bad habit at the time\u2014the boyfriend! ?<\/p>\n

So who are you? Doubtful? Friendly? Skeptical? Whichever one you exude will be reflected in the people who you attract into your life. Years ago, I had a record label. People often warned that the music business was cutthroat. I got advice: \u201cBe careful about everyone and always put yourself first as others do.\u201d \u201cWatch your back.\u201d I didn\u2019t listen and was friendly to everyone. I helped when I could.<\/p>\n

By having a positive attitude, I attracted others who had one. I got help with everything I needed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Big people supported me. I got freebies for services that would cost hundreds, or more. Chris, an engineer at a major mastering studio, who got an exorbitant hourly fee, came to the studio for the final mix for one of my recordings. He added his skills and great ear. Then he took the finished product to his very expensive facility and edited it for free. Why? He said I was a nice person. Few people went out of their way to thank him when he mastered their record. I always did. And I always had good manners.<\/p>\n

Many people said it was nice to deal with someone with a courteous, appreciative attitude. They liked helping a nice person.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Law of Attraction brought me all sorts of good people who, rather than cut my throat, watched out for me with others who might do it. I got an education and was guided to other good folks. While the rest of the people in the music industry lived in a cutthroat world, I created my own little world of kind people who reached out with help. I continue to do it in other areas of my life.<\/p>\n

The Law of Attraction helps you to create an immediate positive, personal world that doesn\u2019t have to match a more negative one that others around you may have.<\/span><\/p>\n

I live in midtown Manhattan. When I have visitors, they\u2019re often surprised at how many people say hello to me when I\u2019m on the elevator or walking down the street. NYC has a rep of being a cold place. My neighborhood has many people. Most are busy. But I always walk with a friendly smile and attitude and NYC folks respond. Neighbors, store clerks, people who work in mine and surrounding buildings recognize me and say hi. My NYC world is warm and friendly! It’s what I expect and my demeanor reflects that!<\/p>\n

Survival doesn\u2019t mean sinking to other people\u2019s level. You can change the vibe you put out and attract better people and situations.<\/span><\/p>\n

When a client complains to me about continuing to attract a certain type of romantic partner, co-worker, boss, customer service person, etc. that they don\u2019t like, I advise taking a good look at themselves. What does their demeanor say?<\/p>\n

* People complain about always ending up with an alcoholic partner or one who becomes abusive or demanding or controlling.<\/span> I\u2019ve never dated one of those types! We tend to subconsciously expect to find qualities we\u2019re used to in all romantic partners. That revolving door pattern can be stopped with consciousness and working on being someone that a good person would be attracted to. Manage your expectations of attracting a clone of earlier romantic partners. What matters is NOW!<\/p>\n

* From one job to another, people complain about always getting a boss who expects too much and is insensitive to their needs<\/span>. My editors and people I\u2019ve worked with when I had a job have always been the best! Walking into a job with a positive attitude and with some tools to deal with difficult folks\u2014just in case\u2014helps create a more peaceful work environment.<\/p>\n

* You might have a bad attitude and expect customer service folks to be uncooperative <\/span>when you\u2019re upset that your phone isn\u2019t working right, a product is defective or any of the other things you need service for. That can make you less than calm and courteous. You may expect to get poor service and let it show in your demeanor. That attracts what you expect\u2014more poor service. From the get-go, try treating the person with respect and appreciation for the help they\u2019ll give you. You might be pleasantly surprised at how much more they\u2019ll want to help you!<\/p>\n

Your attitude and general manner tells the Law of Attraction what to send you.<\/span> Surly brings other surly folks. Cool keeps you chilly from those around you. Dissatisfaction attracts more to make you dissatisfied about. Yet when you have an air of warmth, the Law of Attraction sends more warmth to you. Going out angry attracts more things to be angry about. Leaving what you\u2019re angry about behind you and staying positive attracts a better set of circumstances.<\/p>\n

What in your behavior attracts people to you?<\/span> Think about it! Do you:<\/p>\n

* Let bad moods gets to you?<\/span> Ask yourself what benefits come from that. A bad mood is usually accompanied by negative rumblings in your head. That\u2019s what the Law of Attraction picks up on and supports.<\/p>\n

* Carry anger around with you, stewing to other people, and to yourself?<\/span> That keeps the anger alive. The Law of Attraction will pick up on that and support your stewing. It might even attract more situations that make you angry. Tell the person who made you angry how you feel, either directly or on paper, which they never have to see. Then forgive and move on. If you can\u2019t or don?
\n??t want to forgive the person directly, do it in your heart.<\/p>\n

* Think poorly of yourself?<\/span> You should know the drill on that one! If you feel bad about yourself, the Law of Attraction will support your lack of confidence. I used to wonder why I couldn\u2019t get out of the hole I dug in my DoorMat days. I felt inferior and looked that way. The Law of Attraction supported my insecurity and people who prey on it. You can fake confidence and get support in that from the Universe until it\u2019s real!<\/p>\n

The Law of Attraction isn\u2019t selective. It picks up on everything. Be more conscious about how you come across to others, because that\u2019s how the Law of Attraction views what you want.<\/span> BE the person you want to attract into your world, no matter how others treat you. That gives you the power to fill your world with good people and situations.<\/p>\n

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