{"id":18,"date":"2010-03-15T12:57:00","date_gmt":"2010-03-15T12:57:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/03\/law-of-attraction-in-action-attitude.html"},"modified":"2010-03-15T12:57:00","modified_gmt":"2010-03-15T12:57:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-attitude","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/03\/law-of-attraction-in-action-attitude.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Attitude"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 78 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series<\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

I hear the word attitude used in a variety of ways. I define it as your view of life, or yourself, or something specific, that reflects in the way you carry yourself and behave. You may think you\u2019re coming across in one way but your attitude can betray your deeper feelings. It can send the right or wrong message to people, and to the Universe.<\/p>\n

Your attitude helps to create the emotions needed to get the Law of Attraction to work for you the way you want it to. Or, it thwarts your desires. <\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve seen attitudes that mask deeper feelings. An air of superiority can cover insecurity. Being overbearing in trying to make decisions for everyone can come from fear of not feeling in control. You may say you love everyone but your attitude can say differently if you ridicule people or put up walls when certain types of people interact with you. It\u2019s especially important to be cognizant of your whole attitude when you want something specific.<\/p>\n

Your attitude can set expectations, even if you want the opposite of it.<\/span><\/p>\n

People who\u2019ve been burned in a relationship say they want to meet someone good for them but, if their attitude towards men or women in general is negative\u2014\u201cMen can\u2019t be trusted!\u201d or \u201cWomen always use me for my money\u201d\u2014your message to the Universe is that you\u2019re not ready for a relationship. I believe that attitude is a big reason that people don\u2019t attract the kind of romantic partner they say they want.<\/p>\n

An attitude based on past experience keeps you from manifesting the best you can in the present. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your attitude can change from work to play. You may be happy in your personal life but believe you\u2019re undervalued at work and it shows in your attitude, which can be defensive with those around you. If your attitude reflects feeling undervalued, that\u2019s what you\u2019ll attract! If you have a more friendly, open, positive attitude, more comes to you. You never know what\u2019s going on beneath the surface of someone\u2019s attitude, just as people can\u2019t read your inner thoughts.<\/p>\n

And the Universe picks up on your most blatant attitude.<\/span><\/p>\n

A few years ago I had a client I\u2019ll call Jay. He walked in to see me with a cocky attitude. He was good looking, in great shape and made good money. Jay bragged that with the odds of women to men in NYC he could get any woman he wanted. He was 37, had a really good game with women and his attitude screamed arrogant. His attitude toward women made me want to smack him. Each was a conquest that would fall for his lines and moves. As he got comfortable with me, Jay let his guard down and his insecurity came out.<\/p>\n

His attitude masked fear that if he stopped acting like a player, he wouldn\u2019t get women.<\/span><\/p>\n

I asked if he\u2019d ever been in love. \u201cNot really\u201d he said. While Jay had been with MANY dozens of women, the relationships had all been as shallow as his attitude. He admitted he did want to get into a meaningful relationship and didn\u2019t know why he couldn\u2019t attract a loving woman. He\u2019d been with models, supersexed chicks, and other hotties. But not one had been sincerely affectionate or loving. Yes, he had fun. He thought he was happy. But as he saw friends in close relationships, he realized that everything he attracted was superficial.<\/p>\n

While it can be helpful to fake confidence until it\u2019s real, it should be on a positive, healthy level, not with phony intentions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Jay couldn\u2019t attract a real, positive, caring woman because his attitude reflected women as goals to conquer, not to love and be loved by. He thought he was happy with the women who looked gorgeous wearing tons of makeup, designer clothing and their own attitudes of being hot. As his walls fell during our sessions, we worked on how to change his attitude about women and his role with them. It took him some time but he\u2019s now happily married with a baby on the way.<\/p>\n

Earl Nightingale said, \u201cA great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Years ago a friend from a small town moved to NYC. He questioned me when I went up to Harlem by myself or walked home late at night. His attitude about NYC was that it\u2019s easy to get mugged. I told him that wasn\u2019t true but he walked around with an attitude that people were out to get him. He walked cautiously on the lookout for trouble. He wasn\u2019t friendly in public. I wasn\u2019t surprised that it took only 2 weeks in NY for him to be preyed on by a group of young punks.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve walked home at 1AM from downtown alone yet this strong guy was jumped at 5:30 in the evening in a busy, normally safe neighborhood!<\/span><\/p>\n

I walk in friendliness since I expect to be safe. My friend\u2019s attitude reflected his nervousness. Fortunately he got away from the guys before they took his wallet. For him it was proof that NYC is a dangerous place. For me it showed how his attitude of walking around viewing everyone as a potential mugger got him mugged! I\u2019ve lived here my whole life and never once had even a close call. I have a loving attitude about all people and feel safe no matter where I am. Of course I\u2019m more alert late at night, but I don\u2019t walk in fear like he did.<\/p>\n

Do your best to match your attitude to the intentions you want to manifest.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pay attention to your attitude in different life situations, and to life in general. What beliefs are reflected in it at work, with friends and family and about yourself? Determine if it\u2019s consistent with what you want to attract or counterproductive for attracting what you want. Do you approach situations in a defensive way or with an openness to great possibilities attitude? Do you reflect preconceived notions based on past experiences? Or is your attitude one of \u201cAll is well and good things are coming?\u201d<\/p>\n

Change your attitude and attract more good! <\/span><\/p>\n

When I felt like I wasn\u2019t worthy of much my attitude reflected that and I didn\u2019t get much. Now I know I deserve all the gifts that the Universe has to offer and my attitude is open to it all, with joy and gratitude. Do an attitude check and help yourself attract a lot more!<\/p>\n

See all the Law of Attraction in Action Series.<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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