{"id":1727,"date":"2012-01-14T12:01:09","date_gmt":"2012-01-14T17:01:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=1727"},"modified":"2012-01-07T13:31:27","modified_gmt":"2012-01-07T18:31:27","slug":"%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-say-%e2%80%9ci-approve-of-myself%e2%80%9d","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/01\/%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-say-%e2%80%9ci-approve-of-myself%e2%80%9d.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI Love Me\u201d Tip: Say, \u201cI Approve of Myself\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/2011\/04\/HowDoILoveMeCover1.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-717\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/91\/2011\/04\/HowDoILoveMeCover1-222x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"222\" height=\"300\" \/><\/a><em><\/em><em>Today is Day 14 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/\">Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><\/em>Saying <strong>\u201cI approve of myself as I am,\u201d<\/strong> over and over, even if you don\u2019t, can make it happen. You don\u2019t have to love and approve of yourself to say it. As you repeat this affirmation, it will begin to sink in. It can take a long time if you didn\u2019t even like yourself before, but it definitely will convince you if you\u2019re open.<\/p>\n<p>Of course this affirmation should be accompanied by other actions to show yourself love.<\/p>\n<p>When I began to say that I approved of me, I didn\u2019t even like me, no less approve. But I said it anyway, whenever I remembered to. I\u2019d laugh at first, knowing how I really felt, wishing I was someone else so I could mean it. But after a while, it raised my consciousness about treating myself more kindly. The more I did and continued the affirmation, the better I felt. And slowly, I began to approve of me in my imperfect skin.<\/p>\n<p>The more I began to really approve of me, the stronger my self-esteem got. The stronger my self-esteem, the more I did loving things for me. Saying \u201cI approve of myself as I am,\u201d over and over, built the foundation for the woman I am today. Try it! It\u2019s a lovely day when you realize that the affirmation you forced yourself to say is now true! This is a great way to say, \u201cI love me!\u201d<br \/>\n*********************<\/p>\n<p>Take the <a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-pledge\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a>&#8211;a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days&#8211;and get my book, <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-book\" target=\"_blank\">How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/\">http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2011 <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/02\/31-days-of-self-love-posts.html\" target=\"_blank\">HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today is Day 14 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month with suggestions for jumpstarting your own self-love. Saying \u201cI approve of myself as I am,\u201d over and over, even if you don\u2019t, can make it happen. You don\u2019t have to love and approve of yourself to say it. 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