{"id":1710,"date":"2011-07-06T12:01:44","date_gmt":"2011-07-06T16:01:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=1710"},"modified":"2011-06-18T22:03:45","modified_gmt":"2011-06-19T02:03:45","slug":"%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-take-a-time-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/07\/%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-take-a-time-out.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI Love Me\u201d Tip: Take a Time Out"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>When we\u2019re kids, having a time out happens when we do something an adult doesn\u2019t like or when our emotions get out of control. It\u2019s meant as a way to break the triggers for behavior that\u2019s unacceptable. As adults, a time out can calm stress and negative emotions. It can also enhance our mood and refresh our energy.<\/p>\n

When you take a time out, you stop and do something that feels good.<\/p>\n

A time out can be something as simple as having a cup of tea in silence, or reading a book.<\/strong> It can be a short walk, or a phone call to a good friend. When the weather is nice, I like to walk over to Baskin Robbins and get my favorite flavor (pralines and cream) ice cream cone and leisurely walk back. Then I continue doing my work. Sometimes I just close my eyes and breathe for a few minutes.<\/p>\n

When I\u2019m feeling very stressed or rushed, I often go to Orin Meditation Room<\/strong><\/a> and do one of the short guided meditations on the site.\u00a0 They\u2019re free and don\u2019t last long but when I finish, I\u2019m refreshed and calmer.<\/p>\n

Find whatever works for you as a time out. Try different things to see what does it for you. Go outside in the yard or on a terrace or somewhere you can get in touch with nature and just be for a few minutes. Sit in a comfy chair and close your eyes. Watch a spiritual video. Say some positive prayers. I like to have a chat with God when I need a break. Time outs are different for everyone. The important thing is to do something that says, \u201cI love me.\u201d <\/strong>It will pick up your spirits and motivate more loving actions.
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Take the self-love challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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