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\"\"<\/a>Today I\u2019m thrilled to have Harold W. Becker <\/strong>as my guest today. His consulting company, Internal Insights<\/a>, was formed in 1990 to \u201cempower people through self awareness and unconditional love.\u201d\u00a0 In 2000 he founded The Love Foundation<\/strong><\/a>, Inc., an internationally recognized non-profit, with the mission to \u201cinspire people to love unconditionally.\u201d\u00a0 To enhance this vision, he conceived Global Love Day, a celebration of humanity held annually each May 1st. Harold is an inspirational speaker, life and business consultant, and author of several books, including, Unconditional Love – An Unlimited Way of Being<\/strong><\/em>. <\/a><\/p>\n

A former banker with an MBA,\u00a0Harold\u2019s dedication to assisting others through a simple, timeless and practical message of unconditional love has been the theme of many radio and TV talk shows including hosting his own PBS special on the subject. Harold sits on various global advisory boards and has worked with individuals and groups in every facet of society from post prison rehabilitation to corporate leadership.\u00a0 Here\u2019s what he has to say about<\/p>\n

The Journey of Unconditional Love<\/strong>
\nBy Harold W. Becker<\/strong><\/p>\n

The journey of life takes a new direction when we become aware of the power of unconditional love residing within our heart every moment. This awareness begins a new approach to life that leads to personal peace, natural harmony and genuine inner wealth. It also changes the very fabric of society as we begin to consciously express this unlimited love. Everything and everyone is noticeably affected by this energy as we move through our daily life with each step and encounter with one another.<\/p>\n

Being conscious of love ignites the spark that makes all things new and restores the wholeness where we once thought we were incomplete. This is the energy and wisdom that bridges all the diverse worlds, thoughts and perspectives and restores our innate connection to all things. Love, and more appropriately, unconditional love is that which brings peace and understanding within where a moment before it seemed nonexistent and perhaps even impossible.<\/p>\n

So how does one realize this simple change of attitude?\u00a0 It begins with a desire to know who we are as a being upon this earthly plane. It is a shift in perspective from seeking in desperation outside ourselves for fulfillment to turning our attention within. By beginning the process of conscious awakening, we start to notice and observe who we are in relation to who we think we are. This subtle shift brings enormous change in personal understanding. We see with new eyes, hear with new ears and perceive a parallel world that always existed yet was blocked out of our consciousness by our own limiting beliefs.<\/p>\n

I am often asked, \u201cHow do we begin this process?\u201d My response is that to ask this question means it has already started. Such is the nature of self conscious realization \u2013 we begin to ask new questions about life since we are no longer interested in the old habits we have been experiencing. For me, this is not necessarily a spiritual or philosophical journey; rather I liken it to a practical approach of common sense and deliberate effort to \u201cknow thyself\u201d and with ever increasing self acceptance, to also \u201clove thyself and all others without condition or limitation\u201d.<\/p>\n

Each of us is a potent source of love when we allow this energy to express naturally. There is nothing we have to ultimately do, rather we allow ourselves to feel and be love. It is that simple. However, for so many, love is hidden under layers of hurt, trauma, drama, pain and suffering. Emotional memories, unspoken doubt, fear, resentment and a multitude of old beliefs often keep us from realizing that these thoughts and feelings have no real power over us. We give them power by living in the past and being afraid of the future. We ignore the love that is present every moment by embracing limitation. It is time to change that. It is time to release ourselves from our own self created bondage.<\/p>\n

When we accept ourselves just for who we are we transform the moment into peace, security, harmony, joy and love. This process begins with releasing our limiting beliefs, past mistakes, lack of self worth, pride and ego through the conscious act of forgiveness. It is up to us as individuals to undertake this journey of healing and conscious awareness.<\/p>\n

As we come to know who we are and why we act and react the way we do, we start to see ourselves in the faces of humanity. The reflection of hurt is our hurt, their pain is our pain, and another\u2019s anger is our anger, just as laughter and delight reflect our own heart. It is seen in the face of nature too. Her destruction is our destruction, her beauty is our beauty. Equally in our children we see our potential and in their smile we see our joy. These seemingly random expressions are our past thoughts seeking manifestation. It is our constant reminder that love is the answer and the question.<\/p>\n

To see love in others, we must first know it in ourselves. We build a new reality in this present moment when we let go. We change the world when we change our personal perspective. When we choose love over fear, kindness over hate, integration over separation, and peace over war, we bring a new reflection to humanity… our loving selves.
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Check out Harold W. Becker’s<\/strong>The Love Foundation<\/strong><\/a>,
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Take the self-love challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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