{"id":1507,"date":"2011-04-27T12:01:54","date_gmt":"2011-04-27T16:01:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=1507"},"modified":"2011-04-18T19:35:30","modified_gmt":"2011-04-18T23:35:30","slug":"%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-writer-a-script-to-help-you-ask","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-writer-a-script-to-help-you-ask.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI Love Me\u201d Tip: Write a Script to Help You Ask"},"content":{"rendered":"

Since I\u2019m focusing on learning to ask\"\"<\/a> for what you need, here\u2019s a practice I found helps me to ask. How does this relate to self-love? Asking for what you wants is an act of self-love<\/strong>. When you ask and get what you asked for, it makes you feel good, which fuels self-love. Even if you get turned down, it’s still making the effort for you to ask, so it’s loving!<\/p>\n

Sometimes when I have to ask for something I really want to get, my confidence increases by creating a script of what I want to say. I don\u2019t always use it verbatim but it prepares me for what exactly I want to say.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve called people I didn\u2019t expect to reach and actually reached them instead of an assistant. When asked what I wanted, I stumbled over my words, only then realizing I wasn\u2019t prepared. Now I jot my thoughts down first so I can be as clear as I can. If it\u2019s by phone, I keep the script in front of me. For in person I try to memorize the basics. Either way it\u2019s helpful to put your thoughts on paper first.<\/strong> It can help you change how you ask for something after you see it in writing.<\/p>\n

Write a few sentences that read like a sales pitch type for what you want to ask for.<\/p>\n

Read it over and over. Then ask. Start with something easier and use each success to build confidence. Getting what you need is a loving act. Asking for it allows it to happen. So write down what you want to ask for and practice asking for it<\/strong>. Then say, \u201cI love me\u201d by doing the ask!
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