{"id":1491,"date":"2011-04-22T12:01:28","date_gmt":"2011-04-22T16:01:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=1491"},"modified":"2011-04-19T14:07:40","modified_gmt":"2011-04-19T18:07:40","slug":"finding-the-empowered-person-in-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/04\/finding-the-empowered-person-in-you.html","title":{"rendered":"Finding the Empowered Person in YOU"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>I was unhappy for many years as I struggled to come up for air in the midst of people pleasing. I felt like I was lost, even though I knew how to get to the place I lived. But I couldn\u2019t find me\u2014the real me who had talent and deserved to be happy. I wanted be happy but didn\u2019t know how to change my patterns. It felt like I was wandering around in unfamiliar territory as I tried to find my way.<\/p>\n

And I eventually did find my way! As I felt much stronger, I looked back on how my life used to be and realized I\u2019d been lost, but I found myself, embraced the me I always wanted to be and was living happily with that newfound self-love and feeling that life is wonderful. I wrote a poem about how I felt and want to share it here. It\u2019s called Lost & Found<\/strong>, because I was lost in my DoorMat days and am grateful that I found me and the enlightenment I have today. Learning to love me was my key to leaving that hazy place of putting everyone else’s needs in front of my own, and going to a place where I was clear about the joy of loving myself enough to make me happy! Here’s the poem.<\/p>\n

Lost & Found<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yesterday I was lost.
\nToday I\u2019m finding
\nthe promise
\nof the little girl,
\nwho used to be scared.<\/p>\n

Yesterday I was lost.
\nToday I\u2019m finding
\nthat dreams,
\neven the highest,
\ncan be realized.<\/p>\n

Yesterday I was lost.
\nToday I\u2019m finding
\nthe daughter, wife, mother
\nis now a woman,
\nin her own right<\/p>\n

Yesterday I was lost.
\nToday I\u2019m finding
\nthat peacefulness
\nbegins with peace,
\nwithin yourself.<\/p>\n

Yesterday I was lost.
\nToday I\u2019m finding
\nthat joy
\ncomes to those,
\nwho follow their dreams.<\/p>\n

Yesterday I was lost.
\nToday I\u2019m finding
\nthat the love
\nI used to give for free,
\nI now give to me.<\/p>\n

Yesterday I was lost.
\nToday I\u2019m finding
\nthe heart
\nthat used to be broken,
\nnow is the guide.<\/p>\n

Yesterday I was lost.
\nToday I know
\nthe greatest gift<\/strong>
\n to yourself, <\/strong>
\n is yourself.<\/strong>
\n \u00a9 Daylle Deanna Schwartz <\/strong><\/p>\n

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\nTake the self-love challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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