{"id":1484,"date":"2011-05-25T12:01:15","date_gmt":"2011-05-25T16:01:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=1484"},"modified":"2011-04-13T20:47:00","modified_gmt":"2011-04-14T00:47:00","slug":"%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-relax-if-you-don%e2%80%99t-do-a-chore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/05\/%e2%80%9ci-love-me%e2%80%9d-tip-relax-if-you-don%e2%80%99t-do-a-chore.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI Love Me\u201d Tip: Relax If You Don\u2019t Do a Chore"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>I\u2019ve heard people getting all upset because they didn\u2019t do laundry or another chore if they ended up staying out having fun. I do recommend doing chores as an act of self-love, like I did in my post \u201cI Love Me\u201d Tip: Clear Your Sink Every Day<\/strong><\/a>. Taking control of bad habits feels good. But occasionally it\u2019s loving to skip a chore and relax when you do. Fun is very important for a good life and says, \u201cI love me!\u201d<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve called a friend who said she couldn\u2019t get together because she had to clean her bathroom. While bathrooms should be cleaned, waiting a few more days won\u2019t hurt in most cases. Chores are tedious. I like to have a routine to do a little at a time, every day. But if I planned on staying in to clean and a friend calls with an invite, I go, guilt-free.<\/p>\n

Life is too short to miss out on fun in order to do work you can put off\u2014sometimes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Just don\u2019t put chores off forever. Then it becomes procrastination, which will make you feel bad. Create a routine to do a little bit of cleaning and other chores every day. But when something you want to do comes up, don\u2019t skip it to wash the dog, do laundry, weed your garden, etc. Just make sure you take care of the task shortly after. In my DoorMat days I\u2019d beat myself up for skipping a chore I planned to do because someone invited me out and I went. I\u2019d go but not enjoy myself as I thought I was bad for not staying home to get the chore done.<\/p>\n

Now when I decide to choose fun over work, I enjoy the fun and figure out when to get it done after. Cut yourself slack! Your living space doesn\u2019t have to be perfect all the time. Do what you can, when you can, and relax when you can\u2019t do everything. The most important thing is to enjoy your life. That says a loud and clear, \u201cI love me!\u201d
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Take the self-love challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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