{"id":126,"date":"2009-03-13T13:30:00","date_gmt":"2009-03-13T13:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/03\/the-recovering-doormat-celebrates-2-new-books.html"},"modified":"2009-03-13T13:30:00","modified_gmt":"2009-03-13T13:30:00","slug":"the-recovering-doormat-celebrates-2-new-books","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/03\/the-recovering-doormat-celebrates-2-new-books.html","title":{"rendered":"The Recovering DoorMat Celebrates 2 New Books!"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST<\/a> is out! It\u2019s a book. MY book!<\/span>
<\/span>Good progress is usually slow. I advocate taking baby steps in order to have the best chance to succeed at what you want or to break old habits. One of the downsides of baby stepping is that the bits of progress can be minimal each day so it\u2019s not obvious. Someone you see every day, like yourself, ? might not notice that you\u2019re losing a half pound a week on your diet since each bit you lose doesn\u2019t make a discernible difference in your body.<\/p>\n

But someone who hasn\u2019t seen you in 4 months will see the results of losing 8 pounds <\/span>while you still wonder why your clothes feel loser since you didn\u2019t notice a weight loss.
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It\u2019s important to be conscious, and grateful, for all the small steps we take. But of course we often don\u2019t. While I\u2019m probably more conscious than most, things get by me. I\u2019ve been so busy lately that I\u2019ve barely had time to breathe. I\u2019m writing 2 new books as my latest titles are released. So much on my plate made me eat without tasting. That\u2019s why Tuesday night\u2014my double book release party\u2014was so special, and eye-opening to me. It was at Bamboo 52<\/span><\/a>, a fabulous sushi lounge on West 52nd Street in NYC. My guests indulged in their yummy sushi, washed down with sake and champagne in the friendly atmosphere the staff creates. They LOVED it! I’m so grateful that I was able to have my party there! That’s me above with super chick, Zanade Mann<\/span><\/a> at my party!<\/p>\n

After over an hour of greeting the crowds of people that attended, everything felt surreal. It was hard to process they were there for ME! Then I stood up to address the crowd. I was on a padded bench looking out over the sea of people and it hit me\u2014they WERE there for ME!!<\/span> There were family, friends, colleagues and fans. Pamela and Xavier Davis actually flew in from Minneapolis. Another fan called to apologize that she was sick and had to cancel in from Detroit. For me! ?
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As I prepared to speak, I thought about where I started\u2014the sad DoorMat, bored and hating herself. Tonight was different! I loved how I looked in my black ruffled dress and felt good. I felt liked and appreciated. When I lived in DoorMatville I thought I had to please people to be liked but I knew I wasn\u2019t liked. I just wanted to not be alone so I did my best to please everyone, everyone but ME! I thought is was worth the price of having people around.<\/p>\n

But I learned that you can be lonely in a crowd if you don\u2019t think people like you for you and are just there for the favors<\/span>.<\/p>\n

Tuesday night I was SO FAR from lonely. A big crowd of people were there to celebrate my accomplishments! I sort of was aware of the baby steps I\u2019ve taken toward success. I get many fan letters every day. But as I immerse myself in work, my bits of success don\u2019t always process. As I wrote my 2 new books simultaneously, I was excited. It meant a lot to me to be able to have them published. While they\u2019re my ninth and tenth books, it doesn\u2019t get old. But as I prepared to talk to the crowd on Tuesday, it hit me.<\/p>\n

This DoorMat is living out her dreams! I have come full circle!<\/span>
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My music biz books have become some of the most popular in the world. My third edition of Start & Run Your Own Record Label<\/span><\/a> (Billboard\/Random House) is out! When I was the first white female rapper, and one of the first women to start a record label, I was teased and not taken seriously. My inner self-empowerment kicked in and I learned how handle myself in ways that earn respect and allow me to still be nice\u2014what I call a Nice Girl on Top<\/span>. I\u2019ve been writing my other new book and preparing for it release but now I need to scream:
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NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST<\/a> is out! It\u2019s a book. MY book!<\/span>
<\/span>
It reflects my journey from being a DoorMat to becoming an empowered chick, with many techniques I\u2019ve used for getting taken seriously without raising my voice or losing my kind nature. This book is my heart and soul! I LOVED writing and hope it helps many women find the kind of peace, freedom from anger and satisfaction that I have by using the tools in the book. A few men who\u2019ve read it said it helped them too.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST<\/a> is out! <\/span>Okay, I’m excited. Pardon me for shouting it a few times! ?And here\u2019s some of the testimonials for the book:
Never underestimate the power of a woman – especially
\na nice one. This book is a must read for today’s world where, thankfully, nice is finally getting the respect it deserves. Mean is so last millennium. Nice Girls Can Finish First offers brilliant tools and savvy advice for making ‘nice’ work for you in business and in life. Nice girls do finish first and this is their ‘how-to’ manual. <\/span>~~Linda Kaplan Thaler, CEO of The Kaplan Thaler Group and bestselling author of The Power of Nice<\/span><\/p>\n

In <\/span>Nice Girls Can Finish First, Daylle Deanna Schwartz proves that women who are basically good-hearted can still be taken seriously in both their business and personal lives. In fact, when used properly, kindness and consideration can go further than selfishness and bitchiness. Good lessons to learn and live by. Daylle proves that we don\u2019t have to be a bitch to be taken seriously in the world: in business and in our personal lives. The more we read books like this, the more it will sink into our brains that have been programmed to please.<\/span> ~~Nina Disesa, chairman of McCann Erickson New York and author of Seducing the Boys Club<\/span><\/p>\n

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<\/span>Anybody can be a bitch. And effective as that might be in the short run, in the long run (and it is a long run) it’ll bring you down. It takes a woman who’s smart, strong and confident to assume the best from people and motivate them to deliver it. Daylle Schwartz shows you how to finish first – every time. <\/span>~~Gail Blanke, Author, Throw Out Fifty Things, Clear the Clutter Find Your Life<\/span>, life coach and motivator<\/p>\n

Daylle Deanna Schwartz provides many constructive techniques for being soft-spoken, friendly and considerate to others in ways that get satisfying results. This book is for women who are fundamentally nice, want to stay true to that and who also want to be taken seriously, earn respect and get their needs met.<\/span> Terrie M. Williams, author of The Personal Touch: What You Really Need To Succeed in Today\u2019s Fast-Paced Business World<\/span><\/p>\n

How blessed am I????? Years ago I rarely heard a kind word about me. Now I have testimonials from these awesome women. So as I come down from the rush this week brought me, I\u2019m vowing to make a bigger effort to pay attention to and appreciate the results of all my little steps as I have bits of progress. I want to taste more along the way. Tuesday night brought it all together. I had tears hearing everyone cheer for me. I cheered for me! ?While women are encouraged to be modest, I will own all the accolades since I KNOW I deserve them! ? I\u2019ve worked hard and know how many folks my books have helped.<\/p>\n

NICE GIRLS CAN FINISH FIRST<\/a> is out! <\/span> \"\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Okay, that’s the last time I’ll shout it. ? I\u2019m SOOOO excited! I\u2019m still a nice girl but now I\u2019m on top of my world and get respect and satisfaction. Check out my book and you\u2019ll learn lots of ways to take more satisfying control of your world. And, go celebrate yourself!<\/span><\/p>\n

If you enjoyed my post, please leave a comment and\/or click on the bookmark and write a short review at some of the sites, especially Stumbleupon and Digg. Thanks!

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