{"id":118,"date":"2009-04-28T14:31:00","date_gmt":"2009-04-28T14:31:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/04\/law-of-attraction-in-action-clarity.html"},"modified":"2009-04-28T14:31:00","modified_gmt":"2009-04-28T14:31:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-clarity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/04\/law-of-attraction-in-action-clarity.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Clarity"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 36 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series<\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

The Law of Attraction reflects what you put out. But often we\u2019re too vague about what we say we want. Clients have said they want more of everything. I ask what everything is. They can\u2019t quite clarify it. They say they know what they want but think in generalities instead of specifics. You can\u2019t get exactly what you want if you\u2019re vague about what it is.<\/p>\n

To get the best results from the Law of Attraction, you must be VERY clear about what you want.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you leave it up to the Universe or God to figure it out, you might not get what you really want. You may think you know what you want but don\u2019t really. Wanting to be out of a current situation into something better isn\u2019t clear. Knowing what you don\u2019t want doesn\u2019t attract the opposite. Thinking about what you don\u2019t want can actually reinforce your continuing to have that.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re clear about what you want, the Universe responds to your clarity. That\u2019s when you get the most good stuff!<\/span><\/p>\n

Think about how you put out what you want. If it\u2019s not clear, make an effort to be specific. Besides your words, make sure that your actions also support your desires and intentions. If you say you want something but your behavior is counterproductive to getting it, it\u2019s hard for the Universe to figure out your true intention. Some of the most common things people say they want in unclear ways are:<\/p>\n

* \u201cI want more money.\u201d <\/span>If I give you a penny, you have more money than you just did and your wish is fulfilled! But I don\u2019t think that\u2019s what people mean. How much more money? I prefer to put it out that I want abundance, in all areas of my life including financially. Or be specific and put it out that you want to double your income or have enough money to buy a house or whatever else you want money for. I leave it in God\u2019s hands to decide where it will come from. But if you say you intend to have lots of money but refuse to buy something you\u2019d like because you\u2019re scared to spend money or you refer to yourself as poor, the message gets muddied. I don\u2019t go crazy but spend with faith that I\u2019ll always have what I need. And I ALWAYS do!<\/p>\n

* \u201cI want someone good in my life.\u201d <\/span>You may mean a romantic partner but may attract more time with your mom, who is a good person. Be clear about what you\u2019re looking for. \u201cI want to meet a romantic partner who makes me very happy and treats me well.\u201d Or make a list of all the qualities you want in one. The more specific you are, the more likely you\u2019ll be to attract what you want. But if you continue to take back the person who treats you poorly or avoid meeting people, the message you send is confusing.<\/p>\n

* \u201cI want a better job.\u201d<\/span> What does a better job mean to you? More money? A higher or more interesting position? Be clear about exactly what you want in your next job. Polish up your resume with clarity about your goals. Complaining about your job while sitting still in it shows you\u2019re okay there. Do things to prepare yourself for the job you say you want so the Universe is clear about what it is. If you\u2019re not clear yourself, figure it out because the Law of Attraction won\u2019t. It will just keep you stuck!<\/p>\n

* \u201cI want to be happy.\u201d<\/span> What does happy mean to you? Being happy means something different to everyone. You have to be specific about WHAT would make you happy. Figuring that out can be the hardest part. Make a list: \u201cI would be happy if\u2026.\u201d Include everything you can think of. It\u2019s better to have being happy as an umbrella goal and seek to receive the specific things on your list.<\/p>\n

* \u201cI want to lose weight.\u201d<\/span> Would you be okay with losing just an ounce? Probably not. Think about what losing weight means to you. Losing at least 10 pounds or a pound a week for months? Fitting into a smaller size. Shrinking your belly? Focus on the specific aspect you want instead of the general statement. And, do at least something to change your eating and exercise habits. Otherwise, your actions show you want to remain the same.<\/p>\n

For many years when I lived in DoorMatville I longed for all sorts of good things. But, I treated myself poorly, which contradicted my wishes. It killed my faith, since I didn\u2019t understand that I sent a message that I didn\u2019t love myself and couldn\u2019t help myself, which the Law of Attraction picked up on and kept me in that place. Now when I expect good things, my words and actions are specific about my being ready to receive them. I get goodies and miracles regularly.<\/p>\n

The clearer you are about your desires and goals, the more likely you are to achieve them.<\/span> It gives the Law of Attraction fuel to make them a reality!<\/p>\n

There\u2019s an old saying about being careful what you wish for because it might come true. THINK about what you want, be SPECIFIC about what it is, ACT like you expect to get it, and enjoy the results! That\u2019s the best way to attract the most. I do all the time and it reinforces why DoorMatville is a place I\u2019ll never choose to return to.<\/p>\n

See all the Law of Attraction in Action Series.<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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