{"id":115,"date":"2009-05-17T20:16:00","date_gmt":"2009-05-17T20:16:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/05\/more-murphys-law.html"},"modified":"2009-05-17T20:16:00","modified_gmt":"2009-05-17T20:16:00","slug":"more-murphys-law","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/05\/more-murphys-law.html","title":{"rendered":"More Murphy\u2019s Law"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>My last post addressed how the Law of Attraction fuels Murphy\u2019s Law<\/a> when you allow yourself to be immersed in things going wrong and your thoughts expect more things to go wrong. It\u2019s funny because writing that post, made me realize that lately I\u2019ve been on edge waiting for more negative stuff to hit.<\/p>\n

I have a book due in July that needs my attention. I have an article to write that\u2019s due next week for a magazine I\u2019ve always wanted to write for. My first assignment for them! But I can\u2019t get to it! With 2 new books, promotion opportunities can be draining. Everyone needs something from me! I haven\u2019t had time to write this blog. Emails from people who\u2019ve read my book pile up in my inbox. Just when I think I can do some writing, I get requests for more things that are needed immediately.<\/p>\n

A lot of my time is drained trying to support my family through health issues. My brother-in-law is going through a major fight against cancer. This week my daughter had a last minute surgery. She’s fine now but I had to help her out. My allergies kicked in on Monday. I haven\u2019t been sleeping well since I\u2019ve been so stressed about not having time for what I need to do. I got sick last weekend.<\/p>\n

Yada Yada Yada! After writing my post, I heard myself talking to someone about it all and hated how I sounded. I was bringing it on with my thoughts!<\/span><\/p>\n

And so I followed the suggestions I wrote about. I became aware and decided to stop the pattern. Last Wednesday, I affirmed that this is the first minute of the rest of my life and I CHOOSE to have everyone in my family, myself included have positive health and healing.<\/p>\n

No more health issues that aren\u2019t going well!<\/span><\/p>\n

I also affirmed that my schedule is lightening and I\u2019ll get everything done that I need to. So I\u2019m finding time to write this post and will do my best to continue. My primary focus is the book I\u2019m writing. Will spend most of my time on that today. But I\u2019m focused on attracting good news and good actions. No more Murphy\u2019s Law in my own life! After I affirmed this, I began to feel better and sleep better. My daughter\u2019s surgery went well and she came right home.<\/p>\n

Yesterday I had to to speak upstate and drove up in a car I borrowed. I love to drive. Living in Manhattan I don\u2019t need a car so this was a treat! Driving gives me a chance to get my thoughts together. It relaxes me. Afterward I took advantage of shopping opportunities. We don\u2019t have Walmart, Target and many other chain stores that people assume are everywhere. They were all within half a mile of each other so I had a shopping frenzy. Got a lot of things I wanted from these stores.<\/p>\n

Manhattan may have lots of designer shops, Macy\u2019s, Bloomingdales, Lord and Taylor, etc., but there aren\u2019t places to get some of the basics easily, like thread or potting soil.<\/p>\n

Having a car allowed me to get things I can\u2019t bring home when I visit a friend who lives out of the city and we shop. Even though I was tired on the way home, I even stopped in IKEA to get a chair I\u2019ve been wanting. When I returned to the city, I used affirmations to attract a good parking spot by my apartment. It\u2019s hard to find one on a Saturday evening but I expected one and there it was, first time around the block. Just found out that my brother-in-law doesn\u2019t start the next phase of his cancer treatment till June so I\u2019ll have three weeks of calm on that front to focus on my writing.<\/p>\n

My post on Murphy\u2019s Law reminded me to follow my own lessons. <\/span>It opened my eyes that I needed to change my thoughts, and I did!<\/p>\n

People often think I know it all and follow all the lessons religiously. But if that were true, I wouldn\u2019t call myself a recovering DoorMat, I\u2019d be a former one. Anyone can backslide when things get tough. It\u2019s easy to hurt yourself without realizing it if you\u2019re wallowing in self pity or feeling completely overwhelmed like I\u2019ve been. I\u2019m grateful that I woke up and even more grateful to be consciously connecting to God very strongly again. I’ve been too tired to think about it. Unlike the old DoorMat, even when I fall back into old patterns, my self-love is strong and helps me recover fast.<\/p>\n

Today really is the first minute of the rest of my life and I CHOOSE to have only positive experiences and health for both me and my family!<\/span><\/p>\n

Since I declared this on Wednesday, I did a corporate talk that went over super well (I\u2019m still hearing from the attendees!), my daughter is fine, I feel healthier, I just got booked to speak on a big national radio show, and I came home yesterday more relaxed than in ages. Watch your thoughts and if they aren\u2019t positive, take charge and change them! You really do control your own destiny and how many goodies you receive. <\/span>I\u2019m in oink mode now–wanting as much as I can possibly manifest–and working on my thoughts to manifest with a vengeance. You can too! ? Join me!<\/p>\n

If you enjoyed my post, please leave a comment and\/or click on the bookmark and write a short review at some of the sites, especially Stumbleupon and Digg. Thanks!

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