{"id":112,"date":"2009-05-12T16:13:00","date_gmt":"2009-05-12T16:13:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/05\/law-of-attraction-in-action-stopping-murphys-law-in-its-tracks.html"},"modified":"2009-05-12T16:13:00","modified_gmt":"2009-05-12T16:13:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-stopping-murphys-law-in-its-tracks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/05\/law-of-attraction-in-action-stopping-murphys-law-in-its-tracks.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Stopping Murphy\u2019s Law in Its Tracks"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 38 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series<\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

How many times has something gone wrong, and then something else goes wrong? I\u2019ve had times when it seems nothing goes right. I used to say that I was having a Murphy\u2019s Law day<\/span>\u2014where it seemed like anything that could go wrong did. Back then I didn\u2019t realize that my thoughts fueled Murphy\u2019s Law.<\/p>\n

When you see things going wrong and expect the next shoe to drop, it probably will.<\/span> The Universe hears your expectation loud and clear and the Law of Attraction supports it.<\/p>\n

People refer to Murphy\u2019s Law<\/span> as a belief that if anything can go wrong, it will? go wrong<\/span>. If you drop 3 pieces of buttered bread, all 3 will always land on the buttered side. I\u2019ve also referred to Murphy\u2019s Law as going from one bad luck situation to another. I get out late, then my elevator is slow, so I miss my train and my client falls through. That kind of chain of events is common. But it happens much more often when the first negative puts the expectation of more negatives into your thoughts.<\/p>\n

When you let one negative experience create expectations of more things going wrong, you tell the Law of Attraction to bring on what you don\u2019t want.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s so easy to succumb to the frustration of having things go wrong. It seems like our learned instincts is to let those kind of things bring us down. Even with all I know, I still go there sometimes. Feeling down from something not working out puts me in a bad mood, if I let it. Then my bad mood darkens my thoughts and expectations. \u201cWell if this could go wrong, this and that will probably tank too!\u201d Then when it does, it\u2019s Murphy\u2019s Law sabotaging me. But it\u2019s not!<\/p>\n

Expecting Murphy\u2019s Law (the worst case scenario) to occur is YOU sabotaging YOU!<\/p>\n

I get it now and try to stop the patterns when I see them happening. It\u2019s not good to create negatives! I had a friend who I silently called Murphy. She was a lovely woman but her thoughts consistently made her life difficult. One day she told me:<\/p>\n

“Everything keeps going wrong in my life. It began with my boyfriend deciding he had enough of New York. He moved far away to begin a new life without me. I cried for weeks and still feel like life hates me. I don\u2019t seem to deserve happiness. After Bill left, I wondered what would go wrong next. Right after, my company relocated to a place I didn\u2019t want to live in. So now I\u2019m out of a job. What next? That same week my rent got raised so high that I have to move. This morning my toaster caught fire and is ruined and I broke the glass carafe for my coffeemaker. And my sister is sick and needs me to take care of her in my spare time.<\/span><\/p>\n

I keep wondering what will go wrong next. Why do I have such bad luck?<\/span>“<\/span><\/p>\n

Hello! I tried to tell her it was her thoughts giving her that bad luck but she kept defending them and putting out more negative expectations. No matter what I said, she whined and moaned about how everything bad always happens to her. Loud and clear to the Universe. And the Law of Attraction brought her the bad luck she was expecting.<\/p>\n

Murphy\u2019s Law is no more than your negative thoughts coming to fruition.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you watch the bread fall and think \u201cI bet all the slices will land on the buttered side, they will.\u201d When I drop my bread, I repeat \u201cbuttered side up\u201d as they fall, and they always land that way. On Sunday I was riding home from a day out with family in New Jersey. The driver turned on the radio and heard about very long backups at the bridge we were heading to. He said, \u201cIt never fails. No matter what time I go home, the bridge is backed up.\u201d<\/p>\n

I cut him off and asked him to think happy thoughts since I expected smooth traffic all the way home.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whenever he expressed concern, I stopped him with a positive expectation. He promised to work with me and was shocked but happy to find no major traffic by the time we got to the bridge. It was what I expected and I kept his thoughts from sabotaging that. Next time you\u2019re having a Murphy\u2019s Law moment:<\/p>\n

* Recognize it<\/span>. Awareness is key to preventing the negatives.<\/p>\n

* Choose to stop it<\/span>. Your thoughts are YOUR choice. Only you can change the course of Murphy\u2019s Law. Make sure you see the bread falling butter side up.<\/p>\n

* Do positive affirmations.<\/span> Since it\u2019s hard to think 2 thoughts at one time, affirmations can take the place of negative expectations. \u201cGood things are happening for me.\u201d \u201cI have very good luck.\u201d<\/p>\n

* Break a Murphy\u2019s Law chain with a declaration<\/span>. When one thing after another goes wrong for me, I take the energy from my anger and frustration and with emotion, declare, \u201cThat\u2019s it! No more negatives! This is the first minute of the rest of my life and I CHOOSE to have things go very positively from here on.\u201d It always breaks the cycle. Always! I say it with the fury I feel and the strong desire to change the pattern.<\/p>\n

You have the power to have a Murphy\u2019s Law free life, or at least to curtail any patterns that begin. When something goes wrong, instead of letting the negatives create your thoughts, allow positive expectations to heal your situation. Nip negatives in the bud right away so they don\u2019t pervade your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

I love having the power to turn my life around. You do too. Use it can create a life that attracts lots of things to feel joyous about!<\/span><\/p>\n

See all the Law of Attraction in Action Series.<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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