{"id":11,"date":"2010-04-26T12:04:00","date_gmt":"2010-04-26T12:04:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/04\/law-of-attraction-in-action-flowing-with-situations.html"},"modified":"2010-04-26T12:04:00","modified_gmt":"2010-04-26T12:04:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-flowing-with-situations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/04\/law-of-attraction-in-action-flowing-with-situations.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Flowing with Situations"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 84 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series<\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

Nobody\u2019s life flows smoothly, without any road bumps and glitches. Mine sure doesn\u2019t. People think of me as having a particularly blessed life. I do! But it\u2019s not because it always go smoothly. I trust the process enough to go with the flow instead of lamenting over situations I don\u2019t like or trying to control it too much. Trusting that you\u2019ll get what you need at the right time keeps you relaxed and in a positive mindset for the Law of Attraction to work well with you. Holding on to your negative emotions about what happened, or didn’t happen, attracts more disappointing outcomes.<\/p>\n

Stuff happens that feels out of your control. But it\u2019s not if you control your thoughts about it and flow with what happens instead of creating negative thoughts about it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis<\/span> said, \u201cI have been through a lot and I have suffered a great deal. But I have had lots of happy moments, as well. Every moment one lives is different from the other. The good, the bad, hardship, the joy, the tragedy, love and happiness are all interwoven into one single, indescribable whole that is called LIFE. You cannot separate the good from the bad. And perhaps there is no need to do so, either.\u201d<\/p>\n

Everyone\u2019s life will have its ups and downs. That\u2019s how it works.<\/span><\/p>\n

I remember when I read Conversations with God<\/a> by Neale Donald Walsch. I love this book! Someone who came to one of my workshops told me about it. I said I hadn\u2019t read it and she sent it as a gift. \u201cCoincidentally,\u201d it arrived just after my dad passed away, when I was feeling down. Knowing that she sent it as an act of pure kindness perked up my spirits. I can\u2019t say it balanced the feelings that went with my loss but it did bring some smiles to me. And I probably appreciated the book more than if it had arrived during a very happy period. The book is Walsch\u2019s account of conversations he had with God. It both enlightened and delighted me, as this was the God I believe in!<\/p>\n

In the book God explains that without negative occurrences, we wouldn\u2019t appreciate the positive ones.<\/span><\/p>\n

I agree wholeheartedly. If things always went well, we wouldn\u2019t even recognize our blessings since there would be no contrast. Our blessings would just be life, which we\u2019d soon take for granted. Viewing it that way has made me appreciate when things happen which I don\u2019t like. Those times keep me grounded in appreciation of all the good stuff! It\u2019s important to understand this. People tell me there\u2019s no God if this or that happened to them, or, they think God hates them if something they wanted could go so wrong. These kind of thoughts don\u2019t send a good message to the Universe and the Law of Attraction will pick up the negative vibes. You know what you\u2019ll attract form that!<\/p>\n

Recognizing the blessings in the down parts of life helps you move past them without getting too caught up in negativity and sends trust in getting a good outcome when the time is right.<\/span><\/p>\n

For everything, I believe if It\u2019s meant to be, it will be. And I can accept that now in complete faith. Relax and trust that if something goes wrong, it wasn\u2019t meant to be. Don\u2019t worry about whether you did something wrong or you\u2019re being punished or that God doesn\u2019t love you. If you did do something wrong, it was because it wasn\u2019t right for you. Years ago I noticed a pattern in dating. With some guys I\u2019d say things that put them off. I was aware I did it but couldn\u2019t stop myself. Later I\u2019d be angry at myself. Then I realized it was a sign that the guy wasn\u2019t right for me. Now when I do it I accept that it\u2019s to prevent not wasting more time than necessary. I didn’t do it with the good guy I ended up in a relationship with!<\/p>\n

Learn to flow with what life brings you. Don\u2019t put yourself on an emotional seesaw ride in either direction.<\/span><\/p>\n

When I was a DoorMat, if something good happened I\u2019d get over the top excited. Then if something fell through, it was a long drop down to my disappointment. A friend noticed this pattern and implored me to get off the seesaw. She was right. It was one of the first lessons I learned as I prepared to leave DoorMatville. Be kinder to yourself during stressful or disappointing times. And temper your response to goodies. Yes, I do try to enjoy the latter fully, but I don\u2019t blow them out of proportion like I used to. When you live in the moment, take the initial joy and let situations unfold.<\/p>\n

Send a clear message that you trust that the good you want is coming, with faith and a light heart. <\/span>Be patient. When things don\u2019t go well, look for all the things you can still be happy about and let that carry you through any negatives. Then watch for more joy you’ll attract with those thoughts!<\/p>\n

See all the Law of Attraction in Action Series.<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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