{"id":109,"date":"2009-05-26T18:53:00","date_gmt":"2009-05-26T18:53:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/05\/law-of-attraction-in-action-smiling.html"},"modified":"2009-05-26T18:53:00","modified_gmt":"2009-05-26T18:53:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-smiling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2009\/05\/law-of-attraction-in-action-smiling.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Smiling"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 39 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series<\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t think that people smile enough. I always find it odd when people comment about how I\u2019m smiling most of the time, like it\u2019s unusual. I smiled a lot as a kid because I was very happy growing up. Loving parents, lots of friends, caring neighbors, doing well in school all contributed to my contentment. I smiled so much that teachers complained to my mom that it made them nervous!<\/p>\n

Then I became an adult, and a DoorMat, and the smiling stopped.<\/span><\/p>\n

Living for everyone but me gave me little to smile about. I passed time instead of living. Back then, happiness meant not feeling hurt by someone who let me down or missing things I wanted to do because I helped someone with their needs instead. Living to avoid pain or in fear of being alone if you don\u2019t please everything doesn\u2019t bring happiness, hence few smiles.<\/p>\n

Not smiling doesn\u2019t attract smiling people and reasons to smile.<\/span><\/p>\n

When I began my journey out of DoorMatville, I remembered how to smile. The more I did for me, the more I smiled. Eventually I found the happy girl I used to be and became a deliriously happy woman. The more I loved me, the happier I became and the more I smiled.<\/span> Now I wake up smiling every day. I also learned the benefits of sharing my smiles with others.<\/p>\n

Smiling attracts more smiles and rewards that can make you smile more.<\/span><\/p>\n

People in stores I go to regularly or other people I don’t know well began to call me Little Star or other names indicating they saw my smile as twinkling and liked it. Living in NYC, I tend to be a bit insular when I walk around, and I walk a lot. I occasionally get annoyed by men making comments about my body or just trying to talk me up when I don\u2019t want the attention. So I began to walk with blinders on and ignore any talking at me. One day I was speed walking across town and passed a guy sitting on a stoop who said something to me. I ignored him. He quickly told me to smile, because he thought it would be a lovely one.<\/p>\n

I slowed up, turned around, and smiled. He smiled brightly back. It warmed the rest of my day.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now I try to smile more when I\u2019m in public places. I passed an older lady using a walker and smiled at her. The smile she gave me back expressed gratitude and joy. I was on the subway this week when a grungy looking man came on and announced he was hungry and could anyone spare a few cents. As I walked to the door at my station, I gave him a dollar. He muttered thanks. Then I looked him straight in the eye and smiled.<\/p>\n

I can still feel his joy radiating. He gave me a huge happy smile. <\/span>He got a dollar but I got a priceless gift. It put me into a great mood for that whole day.<\/p>\n

Now I smile even more. When I do, I get more smiles back. They\u2019re contagious. And the Law of Attraction attracts more. I didn\u2019t see many smiles in my unsmiling DoorMat days. Now they\u2019re all around me!<\/p>\n

See all the Law of Attraction in Action Series.<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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