1.0Lessons from a Recovering Doormathttps://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormatDaylle Deanna Schwartzhttps://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat/author/dschwartzrich600338<blockquote class="wp-embedded-content" data-secret="B3VQYUBnW9"><a href="https://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat/2008/05/you-can-say-no.html">You Can Say NO!</a></blockquote><iframe sandbox="allow-scripts" security="restricted" src="https://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat/2008/05/you-can-say-no.html/embed#?secret=B3VQYUBnW9" width="600" height="338" title="“You Can Say NO!” — Lessons from a Recovering Doormat" data-secret="B3VQYUBnW9" frameborder="0" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no" class="wp-embedded-content"></iframe><script type="text/javascript"> /* <![CDATA[ */ /*! This file is auto-generated */ !function(d,l){"use strict";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&"undefined"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!/[^a-zA-Z0-9]/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret="'+t.secret+'"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret="'+t.secret+'"]'),c=new RegExp("^https?:$","i"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display="none";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute("style"),"height"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):"link"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute("src")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener("message",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener("DOMContentLoaded",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll("iframe.wp-embedded-content"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute("data-secret"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+="#?secret="+t,e.setAttribute("data-secret",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:"ready",secret:t},"*")},!1)))}(window,document); /* ]]> */ </script> Last night I was at an event. The speaker asked people in the audience to share something special they’d done this year. One woman said she began to say “no” to people. Everyone applauded this feat. Women are known for being overly agreeable. I’ve encountered many guys who say they also agree to requests much…http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_W3h59OgJIAA/SD2SPgkpTqI/AAAAAAAAAWM/1ldu0Tvt-Fc/s200/persontypething_P3050436.JPG