1.0Lessons from a Recovering Doormathttps://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormatDaylle Deanna Schwartzhttps://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat/author/dschwartzrich600338<blockquote class="wp-embedded-content" data-secret="NpBGblCPEg"><a href="https://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat/2008/04/is-revenge-success.html">Is Revenge SUCCESS?</a></blockquote><iframe sandbox="allow-scripts" security="restricted" src="https://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat/2008/04/is-revenge-success.html/embed#?secret=NpBGblCPEg" width="600" height="338" title="“Is Revenge SUCCESS?” — Lessons from a Recovering Doormat" data-secret="NpBGblCPEg" frameborder="0" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no" class="wp-embedded-content"></iframe><script type="text/javascript"> /* <![CDATA[ */ /*! This file is auto-generated */ !function(d,l){"use strict";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&"undefined"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!/[^a-zA-Z0-9]/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret="'+t.secret+'"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret="'+t.secret+'"]'),c=new RegExp("^https?:$","i"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display="none";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute("style"),"height"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):"link"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute("src")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener("message",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener("DOMContentLoaded",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll("iframe.wp-embedded-content"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute("data-secret"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+="#?secret="+t,e.setAttribute("data-secret",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:"ready",secret:t},"*")},!1)))}(window,document); /* ]]> */ </script> I hear people proudly talk about the revenge they’re getting on someone. Is achieving it something to be considered SUCCESS? Going after revenge is usually destructive. The behavior that revenge motivates is unhealthy. You might feel successful at hurting someone. Think about if that‘s the kind of SUCCESS you want to own. Tricia Walsh-Smith has…http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_W3h59OgJIAA/SA0gF9zfKHI/AAAAAAAAATc/kry9ULTjwrk/s200/IMG_0530.JPG