{"id":167,"date":"2009-07-17T13:39:49","date_gmt":"2009-07-17T13:39:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/kingdomofpriests\/2009\/07\/jewish-dating-advice-confidential-and-keep-it-that-way.html"},"modified":"2009-07-17T13:39:49","modified_gmt":"2009-07-17T13:39:49","slug":"jewish-dating-advice-confidential-and-keep-it-that-way","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/kingdomofpriests\/2009\/07\/jewish-dating-advice-confidential-and-keep-it-that-way.html","title":{"rendered":"Jewish Dating Advice &#8212; Confidential! (And Keep It That Way)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m kicking myself right now. An old friend from the East Coast got in touch with me about setting up her brother-in-law with an eligible and attractive single Jewish woman here in Seattle, and did I know of such a person. It turns out I sure do but then I blundered. I told my friend that the woman I have in mind is <i>shomer Shabbat<\/i>. She observes the Sabbath. Immediately my friend, the other go-between, was wary. The guy in question is Reform, not observant at all. I&#8217;m very annoyed at myself because I know perfectly well that in Jewish dating &#8212; and let all Jewish singles hear this well &#8212; this is the kind of thing &#8212; like being a Republican &#8212; that you have to keep secret in dating till at least the third date.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Anyway that&#8217;s my view.&nbsp;And you?<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<p><!--more--><br \/>\nMy perspective is that unless you are talking about an exclusively religious dating scene &#8212; and this is not the context here &#8212; then there are some things, some beliefs and practices, that can only be evaluated in a person once you know him, or in this case her, personally. &nbsp;You do not have to lay all your cards on the table on a first date. 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