{"id":98,"date":"2012-10-23T12:13:34","date_gmt":"2012-10-23T12:13:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/kabbalahcounseling\/?p=98"},"modified":"2012-10-23T12:13:34","modified_gmt":"2012-10-23T12:13:34","slug":"the-natures-of-humanity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/kabbalahcounseling\/2012\/10\/the-natures-of-humanity.html","title":{"rendered":"THE &#8220;NATURES&#8221; OF HUMANITY"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We have previously described a system in which God \u201cwants\u201d to give of His goodness and, therefore, creates us to be the receivers of that goodness.<\/p>\n<p>So, it seems like we\u2019re done.<\/p>\n<p>God wants to give. Man wants to receive.<\/p>\n<p>God gives. Man receives. Game over.<\/p>\n<p>So, what are we still doing here?<\/p>\n<p>Turns out it\u2019s not that simple.<\/p>\n<p>While man is, in fact, created with this nature to receive, the funny thing is that oftentimes when man does receive something, he is very uneasy about taking it.<\/p>\n<p>But why the inner struggle about taking a gift if it is inherent in our God-given nature to receive?<\/p>\n<p>For example, when invited over to another\u2019s home for dinner, many feel perturbed about showing up with no gift other than their presence, eating the food, and then leaving. So, they resolve to bring something along to add to the meal \u2013 wine, flowers, chocolates, cookies, dessert, etc.<\/p>\n<p>Why do they feel the need to bring something? After all, if being a receiver is the essence of what the human being is and how he was created, why all the agitation when receiving?<\/p>\n<h1>Humanity\u2019s Duality<\/h1>\n<p>Here is the problem: While it is true that, on the one hand, God creates man to receive, on the other hand, man is an \u201coutgrowth\u201d and \u201cexpression\u201d of the Infinite. That is, just as the sunray is an \u201coutgrowth\u201d and \u201cexpression\u201d of the sun, the soul of the human being is an \u201coutgrowth\u201d and \u201cexpression\u201d of God. There is a certain seeming independence that the sunray has from the sun in which the sunray receives its essence and vitality from the sun, yet the sunray shares a certain nature with the sun. And, in the same manner, there is a certain seeming independence that man has from God in which man receives his essence and vitality from God, yet man shares a certain \u201cnature\u201d with God.<\/p>\n<p>(Similarly, the Torah compares the human being to a tree. A tree branches out, and the branches receive their essence and vitality from the tree, yet share a certain nature with the tree. So too, man receives his essence and vitality from God, yet shares a certain \u201cnature\u201d with God.)<\/p>\n<p>This means that while God creates man with the innate nature to receive, man also ends up with another nature \u2013 the \u201cnature\u201d of God \u2013 which, for our purposes here, is the nature to give.<\/p>\n<p>Thus, man is created in duality \u2013 with the natures of both receiving and giving \u2013 and this causes conflict within him.<\/p>\n<p>On the one hand, man has a nature to receive because he is created to receive. On the other hand, man has a nature to give because he has a side of him that is Godly, and if there\u2019s one thing we know about God so far, it\u2019s that He is a giver. After all, as we have explained, God creates the world, creates man, and gives man constant opportunities to build a relationship with Him (which is the ultimate) while not taking anything in return. Hence, God is the Ultimate Giver, and the human being, being an \u201cexpression\u201d and \u201coutgrowth\u201d of God, has that nature to give as well<\/p>\n<p>This is the reason why we have uneasiness about receiving despite the fact that God created us to be receivers. It is because we have another side to us \u2013 an innate Godly side \u2013 which yearns to give. And receiving is a blatant denial and squashing of that side.<\/p>\n<h1>Two Resolutions<\/h1>\n<p>There are two resolutions to this quandary \u2013 the first of which doesn\u2019t completely solve the problem, thereby causing us to consider the second. We will deal with the first and its shortcoming here, and we will come onto the second next week.<\/p>\n<h2>Resolution #1<\/h2>\n<p>Since God created us with the nature to receive, we are clearly supposed to be receiving. Therefore, it seems we are to receive that which is necessary and become a giver for the rest.<\/p>\n<p>And, the truth is that we are much less uneasy about receiving those things that we really <em>need<\/em> to receive.<\/p>\n<p>As I type this, I am receiving air.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t feel bad about that.<\/p>\n<p>Since air is something I simply cannot do without, I don\u2019t give too much thought about receiving it, and receiving it doesn\u2019t trouble me. Similarly, were a starving castaway to suddenly be found and offered water, bread, and some tuna by a few explorers who happened upon his deserted island, he wouldn\u2019t feel that this is something he ought to not be taking from them since he <em>needs<\/em> it for his survival.<\/p>\n<p>However, the more the thing I am receiving is something I ought to not <em>need<\/em> to receive, the more I feel uncomfortable receiving it. For example, in the affluent society in which we are blessed to live, where it is expected that I have a job, make money, and am capable of sustaining myself, I may start feeling uneasy if I show up at my friend\u2019s house and scarf down a meal \u2013 even if I\u2019m participating in this meal as an invited guest. Since the fact of the matter is that I can feed myself, I become uneasy about <em>receiving<\/em> a meal from another.<\/p>\n<h1>Identity Fusion<\/h1>\n<p>As we explained in previous articles, the more similar the two participants in any relationship are, the greater the relationship is going to be. In the spiritual sense, this principle is endlessly increased.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s try to understand this on a conceptual level.<\/p>\n<p>Imagine Joe is acting cruelly. At that moment, what is Joe\u2019s association with the greater concept of \u201cNice\u201d?<\/p>\n<p>Nothing.<\/p>\n<p>What would you advise Joe to do if he would like to have an association with Nice?<\/p>\n<p>Of course you would tell Joe to act nice and to be nice.<\/p>\n<p>This is because, to the extent an individual is nice, he embodies, personifies, and shares a certain oneness-of-identity with the greater concept of Nice; and, to the extent an individual is not nice, he and Nice are separate, having nothing to do with each other.<\/p>\n<p>Similarly, if I want to have a close relationship with the Infinite (i.e., the Ultimate Giver), I am going to want to transform myself into as great a giver as I can be.<\/p>\n<p>Here lies the problem.<\/p>\n<p>If I\u2019m created with a nature to receive, and therefore I must receive and I should receive, how can I still be connected to God with the part of myself that is receiving? And don\u2019t tell me to be half-connected to God and half-disconnected from God. I don\u2019t want to be connected to God with only 50% of myself. I want to be 100% connected to God!<\/p>\n<p>For this, we will come on to another resolution that goes deeper next week. Stay tuned\u2026<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Rabbi Eliyahu Yaakov<\/strong><\/em><em>\u00a0is\u00a0a cutting edge\u00a0international\u00a0speaker on Kabbalah, relationships, parenting, and life, and the author of the #1 Amazon\u2019s Best Seller,\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/0987995405?tag=beliefnetauto-20\" target=\"_blank\">Jewish By Choice: A Kabbalistic Take on Life &amp; Judaism<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Rabbi Eliyahu is scheduled to be speaking across North America during the dates \u00a0November 5-22. To book a presentation, seminar, or consultation email rey@getyourjewon.com<\/em><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.stickergiant.com\/Merchant2\/imgs\/450\/s2269_450.jpeg\" alt=\"\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We have previously described a system in which God \u201cwants\u201d to give of His goodness and, therefore, creates us to be the receivers of that goodness. So, it seems like we\u2019re done. God wants to give. Man wants to receive. God gives. Man receives. Game over. So, what are we still doing here? 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