{"id":4709,"date":"2009-03-25T06:03:30","date_gmt":"2009-03-25T06:03:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/jesuscreed\/2009\/03\/romance-and-marriage-vows.html"},"modified":"2009-03-25T06:03:30","modified_gmt":"2009-03-25T06:03:30","slug":"romance-and-marriage-vows","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/jesuscreed\/2009\/03\/romance-and-marriage-vows.html","title":{"rendered":"Romance and Marriage Vows"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Vows.jpg\"<\/span>David Blankenhorn, in a column in 1997 (and anthologized in a book my class is reading —  Wing to Wing, Oar to Oar: Readings on Courting and Marrying (The Ethics of Everyday Life)<\/a>\"\" <\/strong><\/em>), discusses the potential symbolic value of marriage vows. He speaks of two changes in marriage vows today:<\/p>\n

1. Modern vows routinely omit or downplay a pledge of permanence in marriage.
2. Modern vows are composed by the couple. <\/p>\n

What do you think of these two changes? Do you think either of them matters? Do you think they embody a theory or a theology or a view of marriage? How do they matter (if they do)? I’m wondering what pastors are seeing? Marriage planners? Pre-marriage counselors?<\/b><\/p>\n

Here is what Blankenhorn thinks:<\/p>\n


\nThe traditional view handed on to a couple an existing vow and it implied a view of marriage. The more typical form today is to compose the vow, make it personal, and create their own view of marriage as a result.<\/p>\n

“In one view, the vow is prior to the couple. … In the new view, the couple is prior to the promise.”<\/p>\n

“A reality in which the marriage is larger than the couple is replaced by a reality in which the couple is larger than the marriage.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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