{"id":344,"date":"2010-12-21T12:47:15","date_gmt":"2010-12-21T12:47:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/inspirationreport\/2010\/12\/how-to-find-your-inner-voice.html"},"modified":"2010-12-21T12:47:15","modified_gmt":"2010-12-21T12:47:15","slug":"how-to-find-your-inner-voice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/inspirationreport\/2010\/12\/how-to-find-your-inner-voice.html","title":{"rendered":"How to Find Your Inner Voice"},"content":{"rendered":"

Guest Blog by By Dr. Brian Alman and Stephen Montgomery<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

Here’s how to deal successfully
\nwith any physical or emotional challenge. It’s called the “Find Your Voice Process.”  Spend just a few minutes a
\nday, and as often as needed, taking yourself through the following
\nthree steps:<\/p>\n

Step 1: Experience Your Challenge
<\/b>First,
\nstop trying to get rid of your challenge; that never works and is even
\ncounter-productive – – the harder you try to fix yourself, the stronger
\nyour challenge becomes. Instead, begin to focus deliberately on the
\nexperience of your pain, craving, fear, sadness, and so forth. Let
\nyourself become fully aware <\/i>of all your difficult thoughts, feelings, and sensations – – everything that’s part of your challenge. Then flow right into accepting<\/i> your experience just as it is. And last, find some private way to express<\/i>everything
\nyou’re thinking and feeling – – go ahead and say it all to yourself,
\nwrite it down, act it out in your imagination. When you go deep inside
\nand experience your challenge thoroughly and wholeheartedly, you learn
\nwhat it feels like to be in touch with your true, authentic self, and
\nthis begins to empower the voice of your inner wisdom.<\/p>\n

Step 2: Judge Your Challenge
<\/b>Next,
\nyou need to deal constructively with your Inner Judge, that
\nself-critical voice in your head that’s quick to blame you and punish
\nyou for your mistakes and imperfections- – even for being challenged at
\nall. Poised in opposition to your true healing voice, your Inner Judge
\nis the tireless voice of your social\/family programming, and it’s been
\ndrilled into you for so long that there’s no getting rid of it. In
\nfact, if you try to fight your Inner Judge, you only end up being more
\njudgmental- – you are, in effect, judging  <\/i>your Judge- – and this only gives it energy.  As in Step 1, the better way is to become aware<\/i> of, to accept  <\/i>and to express<\/i> your Inner Judge. Only by embracing your Inner Judge and working with<\/i> it can you relax this controlling, overanalyzing, never-satisfied, endlessly adversarial part of your mind.

Step 3: Resolve Your Challenge
<\/b>Finally,
\nas you experience and engage positively with all your pain and
\nnegativity- – as you embrace all the thoughts, feelings, and
\nself-criticisms that are driving your challenge- – you find yourself
\nspontaneously developing a new and more loving relationship with
\nyourself. This new perspective on yourself naturally quiets the many
\nstrident voices of your challenge clashing in your mind, and almost
\nimmediately you begin to hear your true, authentic voice, your deep
\nintuition, your TruSage. This voice is the real source of your healing
\npower- – it’s where all your own best answers come from. And once
\nyou’re able to listen to your voice, you quickly and effortlessly
\nimagine creative ways to resolving your challenge. It’s as if new ideas
\nfor health and happiness simply bubble up from your unconscious. And
\nthe more you listen, the more the craving, the pain, the fear- –
\nwhatever your challenge- – just dissolves away. It’s really quite a
\nmiracle. And I don’t use the world “miracle” very often.<\/p>\n

That’s
\nall there is to it: 1-2-3. In no time at all, you’ll be moving quickly
\nthrough the process, feeling confident that you can manage your
\nchallenge, instead of having it manage you.   <\/p>\n

Excerpt from the book <\/i>The Voice: Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Discover Your Inner Wisdom <\/i>by Dr. Brian Alman and Stephen Montgomery.
\nThe above excerpt is a digitally scanned reproduction of text from
\nprint. Although this excerpt has been proofread, occasional errors may
\nappear due to the scanning process. Please refer to the finished book
\nfor accuracy.<\/p>\n

Copyright \u00a9 2010 Dr. Brian Alman and Stephen Montgomery, author of The Voice: Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Discover Your Inner Wisdom<\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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