{"id":2312,"date":"2011-11-09T00:35:38","date_gmt":"2011-11-09T05:35:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/inspirationreport\/?p=2312"},"modified":"2011-11-14T08:41:30","modified_gmt":"2011-11-14T13:41:30","slug":"healing-after-heartache-decide-to-let-go-and-move-on","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/inspirationreport\/2011\/11\/healing-after-heartache-decide-to-let-go-and-move-on.html","title":{"rendered":"Healing after Heartache: Decide to Let Go and Move On"},"content":{"rendered":"

So it\u2019s no secret, I\u2019ve been having a rough time<\/a> lately. I’ll spare you the gory details. Needless to say, in the past few week I\u2019ve had tears that I felt would never stop and hopes that washed away with them. What can I say? Sometimes, things fall apart.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s comforting is that, having been through rough times before, I know the drill. I know about the sleepless nights and lack of appetite. I know what I\u2019m prone to do out of fear or anger. And I\u2019ve decided to do things differently this time.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>You see, I don\u2019t believe that every heartbreak has to be the same laborious trial of pain, self-doubt and months of being unsettled. Not every blow is fatal and not all damage is permanent.<\/p>\n

So, how does one get on the mend after a heartbreak? Well, as with everything, it starts with a decision. You need to resolve in your mind that you can and will move on.<\/p>\n

One of the things that makes loss so difficult is a refusal to let go. You pine; you lament. You go back over every single moment in your mind, hold on to keepsakes and analyze everything you did searching for meaning. Yes, there are lessons to be learned and a little self-examination isn’t a bad thing. <\/p>\n

However, here\u2019s the bottom line: some times bad things happen for no reason that will ever make you feel better. And when faced with a situation that you simply cannot fix, it\u2019s perfectly okay to get up and walk away. Just let go. As hard as it seems, you must accept that this particular season in your life is over and decide that you are (or eventually will be) better off.<\/p>\n

Note that I didn\u2019t say any of this was easy. Untangling yourself from something (or someone) you fought so hard for can be heart-wrenching and difficult. So, be patient with yourself. Moving forward after heartbreak is a process. It won’t happen over night. As my mother often tells me, one day at a time. <\/p>\n

Know that it gets better. The sun will shine again. Every morning, the rest of your life begins, but it’s up to you to let go of the past and seize the new day. <\/p>\n

Read More:
\n5 Ways to Get Over It<\/a>
\nWhat You Can Learn from Pain<\/a>
\n8 Ways to Let Go (of a person place or thing)<\/a><\/p>\n

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