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Yesterday\u2019s blog featured the \u201cQueen of Self Love\u201d Christine Arylo, and she did a great video on how to stop sabotaging your love life<\/a>. I was particularly moved by one of her tips. It\u2019s so easy, yet it\u2019s something you have to consciously learn how to do: take a compliment.<\/p>\n

Picture this with me: You walk into your workplace. A co-worker says, \u201cYou look really nice today.\u201d What\u2019s your initial reaction:<\/p>\n

a). You say, \u201cOh, no I don\u2019t. My hair is a mess.\u201d<\/p>\n

b). You look away sheepishly and quickly get to work.<\/p>\n

c). You immediately assume they want something.<\/p>\n

d). You manage to turn it into an insult and retort sarcastically, \u201cWow. Don\u2019t look so shocked. What do I look like normally?\u201d<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>If any of these sounds like you, know that they\u2019re all the wrong reaction (okay, \u201cc\u201d might be true depending on the person, but let\u2019s give them the benefit of a doubt). They\u2019re all defense mechanisms \u2013 knee-jerk reactions to the presence of someone else\u2019s kindness.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s okay to receive a compliment. It doesn\u2019t make you prideful. If anything, the ability to take a compliment with a grateful heart is an act of humility. <\/p>\n

“Remember compliments you receive; forget the insults. (If you succeed in doing this, tell me how)” – Mary Schmich<\/em><\/p>\n

Confession time: I can be bad about taking compliments too lightly. I\u2019ll hear it and thank the person, but not really let it sink in. Yet, somehow, if someone insults me, I could ruminate on it all day. <\/p>\n

When I saw Christine\u2019s video, I decided to flip it. Now, I dwell on the good things people say about me and take the bad worth a grain of salt. And you know what\u2019s interesting? As soon as I started doing that, I realized instantly how much love comes my way and it\u2019s a steady stream.<\/p>\n

So, the next time someone compliments you, smile, say thank you and breathe in the positive energy. Also, believe it\u2019s true. After all, you do look nice today!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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