{"id":1856,"date":"2011-06-29T00:30:18","date_gmt":"2011-06-29T04:30:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/inspirationreport\/?p=1856"},"modified":"2011-06-27T15:48:02","modified_gmt":"2011-06-27T19:48:02","slug":"tell-me-how-you-really-feel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/inspirationreport\/2011\/06\/tell-me-how-you-really-feel.html","title":{"rendered":"Tell Me How You Really Feel"},"content":{"rendered":"

I want to piggyback off of my thoughts on outing your envy<\/a> from yesterday\u2019s blog, because I realized that envy is not the only emotional master of disguise.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>Have you noticed we do that a lot? Act one way when we feel another? For example, we were often told that bullies were simply kids who needed love. I remember even as a kid wondering, \u201cThen, why are they so mean?\u201d It just didn\u2019t compute for me that someone wanting compassion would demonstrate cruelty and settle for being feared rather than loved. Now that I\u2019m older, I get it, because everybody does it.<\/p>\n

Loneliness masks itself as independence. Hurt and pain put up a shield of anger. A deep desire to be cherished parades itself as promiscuity. It goes on and on.<\/p>\n

I just wonder what life would be like if we acted how we really felt. What if someone said, \u201cTell me how you really feel,\u201d and you did? How good would it feel to get all of that off your chest? <\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve been wearing masks and pretending to be something you\u2019re not, I hope you can find time today to be honest with yourself. Find a counselor or trusted friend and tell them how you really feel. When you come out of the darkness, you have a better chance of finding what you need in the light. <\/p>\n

For More:
\nLama Surya Das: Dealing with Grief<\/a>
\n8 Tips on How to become a Happier Person<\/a>
\n21 Tips for Staying Strong and Carrying On<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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