{"id":823,"date":"2015-06-17T13:42:14","date_gmt":"2015-06-17T13:42:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/?p=823"},"modified":"2015-06-17T13:42:14","modified_gmt":"2015-06-17T13:42:14","slug":"what-we-dont-want-to-hear-while-we-struggle-in-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/howgreatthoupart\/2015\/06\/what-we-dont-want-to-hear-while-we-struggle-in-life.html","title":{"rendered":"What We Don&#8217;t Want to Hear While We Struggle in Life"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This morning I sit with my computer on my lap and my chocolate lab, Hazel nuzzling next to me on the couch (I know I&#8217;m a bad mother &#8211; she&#8217;s just so cute).<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, I knew what I was going to write about today. I typed notes into my phone last night at midnight.<\/p>\n<p>Only just now I opened an e-mail from my college friend &#8220;Kiki.&#8221; I had to share her words because they capture so much of what I feel as well.<\/p>\n<p>Kiki writes:<\/p>\n<p>So anyway, I was thinking about eons ago when we were sitting on the beach after I broke up with my college sweet heart&#8230;life always seems to come full circle doesn&#8217;t it&#8230;only now we have sooooo much to lose&#8230;..that day on the beach you said to me &#8220;let him go if he returns it was meant to be&#8221;&#8230;..I&#8217;ve come to hate all &#8220;those sayings&#8221;&#8230;..God doesn&#8217;t give you more than you can handle, when one door closes another opens, it wasn&#8217;t meant to be, you are so strong&#8230;.some days I want to<br \/>\njust look at people and say &#8220;shut the $)&amp;@ up, you have no idea what I am going thru and I don&#8217;t need your two cents comments&#8221;&#8230;&#8230;this brings me to Max Lucado&#8217;s thought for the day:<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t get angry. Don&#8217;t be upset; it only leads to<br \/>\ntrouble. Psalm 37:8<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Anger. It&#8217;s easy to define: the noise of the soul.<br \/>\nAnger. The unseen irritant of the heart. Anger. The relentless invader of<br \/>\nsilence&#8230;.<br \/>\nThe louder it gets the more desperate we become&#8230;.<br \/>\nSome of you<br \/>\nare thinking&#8230;.you don&#8217;t have any idea how hard my life has been. And you&#8217;re<br \/>\nright, I don&#8217;t. But I have a very clear idea how miserable your future will be<br \/>\nunless you deal with your anger.<br \/>\nX-Ray the world of the vengeful and behold the<br \/>\ntumor of bitterness: black, menacing, malignant. Carcinoma of the spirit. It&#8217;s<br \/>\nfatal fibers creep around the edge of the heart and ravage it. Yesterday you<br \/>\ncan&#8217;t alter, but your reaction to,yesterday you can. The past you cannot change,<br \/>\nbut your response to your past you can.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Kiki&#8217;s&#8221; e-mail reminded me of another time a friend quoted me in our twenties. She said to me not too long ago, &#8220;Remember you said God never gives us more than we can handle.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>I was like what???? Did I say that???? And in my twenties no less after just losing both of my parents?? Much like &#8220;Kiki&#8221; I had no desire to hear that.<\/p>\n<p>Only they were my words being recounted to me. So instead all I could do is reflect and be both amazed and disappointed about how very strong my faith was despite great loss and how weak it can be today.<\/p>\n<p>All I could do is remember that faith held anger and bitterness at bay when I was just a young woman without a mother or a father.<\/p>\n<p>All I could do is remember that &#8220;God never sends us more than we can handle.&#8221; And that when it seems as though he does&#8230;he sends us friends to remember that we can by telling us what we don&#8217;t want to hear.<\/p>\n<p>Follow me on Facebook @Colleen Sheehy Orme<br \/>\non Twitter @colleenorme<br \/>\non Pinterest @colleensheehyorme<br \/>\nE-mail: Colleen.Sheehy.Orme@gmail.com<br \/>\nwww.colleensheehyorme.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This morning I sit with my computer on my lap and my chocolate lab, Hazel nuzzling next to me on the couch (I know I&#8217;m a bad mother &#8211; she&#8217;s just so cute). 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