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Divorce is trying. There are no ands, ifs or buts about it. <\/p>\n

I have what I like to call my ‘divorce accessories.’<\/p>\n

Tears (they’re like diamonds – a girl can’t have enough of them)
\nExtra pounds (what I refer to as “30 pounds of ‘Ralph'”)
\nBlack attire (it covers the pounds and the falling tears)<\/p>\n

The problem is in divorce it’s hard to underdress. You are pretty much over accessorized daily. So as good as your intentions might be you end up emotionally gaudy and I might have been better off staying in some nights rather than show off my bad fashion.<\/p>\n

Only I spent these many months crying while my girlfriends kept asking for the old Colleen.<\/p>\n

“I know, I know,” I would sniffle. “I want to find her too! How about we look here? Let’s try this restaurant. I’m sure a glass of cab will bring her back. No, not quite – that just alerted the new Colleen to the tears she had over accessorized with for the evening out.”<\/p>\n

It’s just plain hard to look emotionally fashionable with all this pain. I wish someone had told me that. I wish someone had said STAY HOME – protect yourself, your family and your friends. Don’t keep pushing yourself to be mainstream when the extra pounds you’re carrying aren’t allowing you to fit into your clothes anyhow. <\/p>\n

The world won’t stop because you take a temporary break from everything social, PTA, volunteer or anything else related. Actually, the temporary self-protection may save you from the fashion faux pas of wearing all those divorce accessories out in public.<\/p>\n

You might heal faster if instead of dragging yourself out to keep looking for the old you – you stay at home comfortable that a new you is emerging.<\/p>\n

Hopefully she will be much better dressed.
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